Couple’s love and faith keep them strong
For terminal cancer patient John Mott and his wife Jan, their 22nd wedding anniversary gives him something to live for.
‘‘I set little goals. A 22nd wedding anniversary, Christmas and New Years,’’ he said.
‘‘Small goals yet mean so much to us.’’
Jan admits her faith was temporarily shaken when they received his bowel cancer diagnosis six months ago. ‘‘I kind of thought ‘what are you doing to me God’ you know?
‘‘But there’s a reason for everything and, as John said, through this we have not only drawn closer together, but drawn closer to our Christian faith, to our Lord and to our community.’’
The couple, who married on November 20, 1993, said John’s cancer has deepened their relationship. The couple met through grief after losing their partners, John’s wife of 28 years and Jan’s husband of 30 years, to cancer.
‘‘Our faith, which is very strong, has got us through some very heartbreaking times really,’’ Jan said. ‘‘Especially the last six months,’’ John added.
Jan said the couple are ‘‘sticklers for devotion’’. They try to read their tattered bible every day together. They also try to read a Christian diary everyday.
The couple take an ice cream and a heart shaped rock and a
will rock from a river in Israel to bed and read their devotions each night.
Jan said life isn’t about an individual.
‘‘It’s about giving to others and that’s how you get through life. I think that’s the same with marriage. It’s not about you. It’s about caring for the one you are married to.’’
Even before John’s cancer their shared faith had been a positive influence. It inspired them to be involved in the community garden on Peria Rd and they used to sing at rest homes as The Sunshiners, along with Lynley McKinley. Jan still sings at rest homes and sells lollies to Country Lodge residents.
By blessing others with service they feel they have benefited even more.
‘‘The love I have felt from total strangers in this town. Jan will walk down the street and get cuddles,’’ John said, overcome with tears.
The couple plan to go to the movies in Cambridge to celebrate their anniversary.
John and Jan Mott with their bible, heart rock and a rock from an Israel river that may have been used to slay Goliath which helps them both.