LIFE COACH

The Miss FQ team gets sorted

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AS­SO­CI­ATE EDI­TOR PHOEBE WATT @phoe­be­watt How to Win Friends and In­flu­ence Peo­ple, by Dale Carnegie

Scor­pio, Slytherin, ENTJ… whether you con­sult my star sign, my Sort­ing Hat quiz re­sults, or my My­ers-briggs per­son­al­ity type, the same key words crop up over and over. Am­bi­tious. Mag­netic. Re­source­ful. Cun­ning. Ruth­less. Un­for­giv­ing. While I make no apolo­gies for (most of) these traits and would ar­gue their pos­i­tives, I’ve read enough per­son­al­ity test post-analy­ses to know that if the goal is to get what I want (al­ways!), then be­ing dom­i­neer­ing (or TBH, a bit of a bey­atch) isn’t al­ways the most ef­fec­tive route. A lit­tle em­pa­thy can ap­par­ently go a long way, and this re­al­i­sa­tion led me to the OG of self­im­prove­ment books, How to Win Friends and In­flu­ence Peo­ple. First pub­lished in 1936, and now with a glow­ing en­dorse­ment by bil­lion­aire Coca-cola founder War­ren Buf­fett (“It changed my life”), it’s sold more than 30 mil­lion copies world­wide, and you can add one more sale to that tally. I thumbed straight to sec­tion six: ‘Be a Leader: How to Change Peo­ple With­out Giv­ing Of­fense or Arous­ing Re­sent­ment’.

MAN­AG­ING EDI­TOR SALLY- ANN MULLIN @sallyan­n­mullin Ask and It Is Given, by Es­ther and Jerry Hicks After 30-plus years of be­ing #blessed in

ev­ery area of my life, 2017 was the year my good luck packed up and moved away. My car be­ing towed three times in one day was the fi­nal straw, so hav­ing dab­bled with the law of at­trac­tion in my early 20s, I was ea­ger to re­visit this way of think­ing. A slightly more mys­te­ri­ous and less Oprah’s Book Club ver­sion of The Se­cret, Ask and It Is Given promised to help me man­i­fest my heart’s de­sire through the power of positive thought and vi­bra­tions. Un­for­tu­nately, as some­one who works with fonts and de­signs on the daily, the book’s cover did not ap­peal. I also strug­gled with the cen­tral claim that the words within were es­sen­tially writ­ten by a spirit (the spirit of Abra­ham, to be ex­act). But with noth­ing to lose and ev­ery­thing to gain, I fig­ured it was worth the $12 Kin­dle down­load. Call it a co­in­ci­dence, but I’ve al­ready more than made that back in free carparks out­side my favourite restau­rants.

SE­NIOR ART DI­REC­TOR ALICE MOR­GAN @al­ice­mor­gan.de­sign Pow­er­fuljre, hosted by Joe Ro­gan

When I think Joe Ro­gan, I au­to­mat­i­cally hear the words “Fear is not a fac­tor for you!” and en­vis­age a cast of hap­less in­di­vid­u­als par­tak­ing in gut-wrench­ing stunts. Ten years on from that hor­ror show, and here we have the for­mer Fear Fac­tor host sit­ting in a stu­dio, ques­tion­ing the mean­ing of life. With guests rang­ing from politi­cians and sci­en­tists to ac­tors and philoso­phers, each three-hour Pow­er­fuljre pod­cast makes you think — even if you don’t agree with what’s be­ing said. My most dis­liked episode fea­tures Milo Yiannopou­los, a Bri­tish po­lit­i­cal com­men­ta­tor, jour­nal­ist and pub­lisher with ex­treme right-wing views. They’re not my views, but it’s in­ter­est­ing to get a dif­fer­ent per­spec­tive on why peo­ple be­lieve what they do. And in this di­vided world we live in, it’s never been more im­por­tant for women to take a stand, so if you want to be more in­formed about so­ci­ety, pol­i­tics or re­li­gion (I highly rec­om­mend the Scien­tol­ogy episode fea­tur­ing Leah Rem­ini!), Pow­er­fuljre is a great place to start.

FASH­ION EDI­TOR DANIELLE CLAUSEN @daniel­le­clausen

Peace Is Ev­ery Step: The Path of Mind­ful­ness in Every­day Life, by Thich Nhat Hanh

I re­cently be­came more cu­ri­ous about the role that stress plays in my life. Rather than de­fault­ing to a dis­tressed state ev­ery time I felt over­whelmed by some­thing, I be­gan to won­der, what if I could choose to change my re­sponse to fac­tors out­side my con­trol? Peace is Ev­ery Step: The Path of Mind­ful­ness in Every­day Life is a book that was writ­ten with me in mind, its main les­son be­ing how to make positive use of sit­u­a­tions that usu­ally an­tag­o­nise us. I’m not en­tirely con­vinced my emo­tions won’t con­tinue to take over when the pres­sure hits, but surely that’s all the more rea­son to take that first step.

BEAUTY EDI­TOR MEGAN BED­FORD @meganbed­ford Lis­ten Money Mat­ters, hosted by An­drew Fiebert, Matt Gio­vanisci and Thomas Frank

Given I’m in my 30s, you’d think I’d have a han­dle on money mat­ters. Although I’m not ridicu­lous, I do spend too much on things that aren’t es­sen­tial. Work­ing on a fash­ion mag is hard, okay? Temp­ta­tion stalks me daily. So I won­dered if lis­ten­ing to some straight­for­ward, re­lat­able fi­nan­cial ad­vice on my daily hour-plus com­mute could help me get into a more proac­tive, sav­ing-not-spend­ing state of mind. I’m not talk­ing in­vest­ing, I just want some­one to tell me which of my spend­ing habits could be ad­justed, and with episode names like ‘Stop Wast­ing Money Al­ready’; ‘Put Your Adult Pants On’ and ‘Get­ting Fi­nan­cially Naked with the Broke Mil­len­nial’, Lis­ten Money Mat­ters re­ally drew me in. Sorry, fel­low com­muters, I wasn’t nod­ding “Good morn­ing” to you, just agree­ing as the hosts (who’re not preachy at all) men­tion things that I do daily. An en­joy­able and en­ter­tain­ing lis­ten, I’m def­i­nitely go­ing to adopt some of their tips.

DIG­I­TAL CON­TENT PRO­DUCER TERRI DUNN @ter­riloudunn Re­booted Body, hosted by Kevin Michael Geary

You know those In­sta­gram quotes that say, “Quit your job. Buy a ticket. Travel the world”? Well in 2017 I did just that, threw in some study over­seas, landed my dream job and moved cities. There were some high highs, but with that came even lower lows, and it got me think­ing that be­ing more ac­tive might help smooth the ebbs and flows of life. Hav­ing a PT would help, but I’d need a knock-on-my-door-at-6am- and-hold-my-hand-down-the-drive­way one, to en­sure I ac­tu­ally made it past the let­ter­box. Not a par­tic­u­larly re­al­is­tic op­tion, then. In­stead: Kevin Michael Geary’s pod­cast Re­booted Body. “Want to get a body and life you love with­out ob­ses­sion, per­fec­tion­ism or the mis­ery of di­et­ing?” he asks. I mean, I’m al­ready sold. Per­haps it’s the fact that it’s do­ing away with di­et­ing; cook­ing is im­por­tant ther­apy for me. What’s stopped me from get­ting into the fit­ness thing is my per­fec­tion­ism — I know I won’t just wake up and be good at it overnight, so I re­quire a change in mind­set there. I’m get­ting the im­pres­sion that’s what I’m go­ing to get out of this.

DIG­I­TAL CON­TENT PRO­DUCER ELLA FRAN­CIS @thi­sisel­lafran­cis The Min­i­mal­ists, hosted by Joshua Fields Mill­burn & Ryan Ni­code­mus

Although I’m 100% the op­po­site of a min­i­mal­ist, I’ve re­cently found my­self grav­i­tat­ing to­wards the idea of strip­ping back. I seem to pack my days with peo­ple, places and stuff to the point that life be­comes a bit of a bat­tle. En­ter Joshua Fields Mill­burn and Ryan Ni­code­mus, AKA The Min­i­mal­ists, and their pod­cast se­ries that dis­cusses how to clear away un­nec­es­sary clut­ter. The dy­namic duo ar­gue that min­i­mal­ism is less about hav­ing less, and more about mak­ing room for all the good things in life, like con­tent­ment, pas­sion and growth. I’m cu­ri­ous to see how my life will be af­fected by learn­ing from the masters, and the ben­e­fits are al­ready start­ing to show. In­stead of jam­ming my life full of any­thing and ev­ery­thing, I’m start­ing to be­come more se­lec­tive about what I say yes to.

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