HOW TO ADULT
Life can be hard — and in this media-saturated world, it’s like we’re living more than one. Every social feed comes loaded with expectations of how to be and look and act, and then there’s IRL to deal with. It’s a lot, so when the going gets tough, we lik
Call out the Harvey Weinsteins of the world
When every other news cycle names another high-profile creep, there’s one thing we can celebrate: women calling out the gross behaviour that’s been going on for way too long. Never have our voices been louder — and the culture is slowly changing. The bottom line? DON’T stay silent. The sisterhood’s got your back.
You do you
Everyone seems to have an opinion on how young women should live, but there’s only one that actually matters: yours. When it comes to major decisions that could change the course of your life, try to put your own desires before anyone else’s, and you’ll do great. Remember, guys, YOLO.
Bounce back from failure
Not everything is going to work out the way you planned, and that’s totally okay. You might blow a big exam, or be passed over for a promotion, but even some of the world’s most successful people have been there. It might feel as if your life is over, but it’s never that bad. In fact, when one door closes, another really does open, and it might be even better than you imagined.
Have you heard the saying that a woman’s intuition is never wrong? That might be stretching the truth a bit, but every cliché starts with a sprinkling of fact. Is your gut telling you to get on the plane and take that job? Listen to it. Got a nagging feeling your guy isn’t The One? You’re almost certainly right.
Never compromise on safe sex (but make it fun)
Whenever you choose to have it, and with whomever you choose to have it with, sex is kind of a big deal — Durex’s recent Global Sex Survey found that 83% of people agree it’s a vital part of health and wellbeing. Although sex should ALWAYS be safe, that doesn’t need to mean boring. If it is? Durex’s *Intense Stimulating Condom and *Intense Stimulating Gel should spice things right up!
Go for the good vibes
Few things are as empowering as time spent with like-minded friends. Unfortunately, the opposite is true of people who send out negative vibes, so aim to fill your social calendar with the former, and minimise your exposure to the latter. Surround yourself with strong, positive women and allow them to inspire you — and you them.
Accept that not all love lasts
Breakups are the worst, but it helps to remember that unless you’re incredibly lucky, you’re probably not gonna find your soulmate on your first (or second) try. Many relationships will come to an end, but they all teach us something about ourselves — and as long as you stop to realise what that is, you will have gained, not lost.
Learn how to be alone
We all know what FOMO feels like — at home on a Friday night, convinced the rest of the world is partying without you. Whatever. These days, we’re all about JOMO: the joy of missing out. Everyone needs to recharge, and sometimes Friday night is the best time to do it. There’ll always be another party but there’s only one of you, so take care of yourself. Get advice from your feminist forebears History is chock full of amazing women to turn to for wisdom and advice, from writers like Virginia Woolf and Simone de Beauvoir, to activists like Angela Davis and Gloria Steinem. No matter what you’re experiencing, you can bet someone’s gone through it before — and they probably wrote about it. So cue up that Kindle and get reading!
Keep your eyes on the prize
No one’s going to hand you your dream career on a silver platter — you’re going to have to work for it. Once you know what you want, hustle your way towards it by learning all you can. It could be as simple as interning to get experience, or finding the right mentor.