HOW TO ADULT

Life can be hard — and in this me­dia-sat­u­rated world, it’s like we’re liv­ing more than one. Ev­ery so­cial feed comes loaded with ex­pec­ta­tions of how to be and look and act, and then there’s IRL to deal with. It’s a lot, so when the go­ing gets tough, we lik

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Call out the Har­vey We­in­steins of the world

When ev­ery other news cy­cle names an­other high-pro­file creep, there’s one thing we can cel­e­brate: women calling out the gross be­hav­iour that’s been go­ing on for way too long. Never have our voices been louder — and the cul­ture is slowly chang­ing. The bot­tom line? DON’T stay silent. The sis­ter­hood’s got your back.

You do you

Ev­ery­one seems to have an opin­ion on how young women should live, but there’s only one that ac­tu­ally mat­ters: yours. When it comes to ma­jor de­ci­sions that could change the course of your life, try to put your own de­sires be­fore any­one else’s, and you’ll do great. Re­mem­ber, guys, YOLO.

Bounce back from fail­ure

Not ev­ery­thing is go­ing to work out the way you planned, and that’s to­tally okay. You might blow a big exam, or be passed over for a pro­mo­tion, but even some of the world’s most suc­cess­ful peo­ple have been there. It might feel as if your life is over, but it’s never that bad. In fact, when one door closes, an­other re­ally does open, and it might be even bet­ter than you imag­ined.

Trust your­self

Have you heard the say­ing that a woman’s in­tu­ition is never wrong? That might be stretch­ing the truth a bit, but ev­ery cliché starts with a sprin­kling of fact. Is your gut telling you to get on the plane and take that job? Lis­ten to it. Got a nag­ging feel­ing your guy isn’t The One? You’re al­most cer­tainly right.

Never com­pro­mise on safe sex (but make it fun)

When­ever you choose to have it, and with whomever you choose to have it with, sex is kind of a big deal — Durex’s re­cent Global Sex Sur­vey found that 83% of peo­ple agree it’s a vi­tal part of health and well­be­ing. Although sex should AL­WAYS be safe, that doesn’t need to mean bor­ing. If it is? Durex’s *In­tense Stim­u­lat­ing Con­dom and *In­tense Stim­u­lat­ing Gel should spice things right up!

Go for the good vibes

Few things are as empowering as time spent with like-minded friends. Un­for­tu­nately, the op­po­site is true of peo­ple who send out neg­a­tive vibes, so aim to fill your so­cial cal­en­dar with the for­mer, and min­imise your ex­po­sure to the lat­ter. Sur­round your­self with strong, positive women and al­low them to in­spire you — and you them.

Ac­cept that not all love lasts

Breakups are the worst, but it helps to re­mem­ber that un­less you’re in­cred­i­bly lucky, you’re prob­a­bly not gonna find your soul­mate on your first (or sec­ond) try. Many re­la­tion­ships will come to an end, but they all teach us some­thing about our­selves — and as long as you stop to re­alise what that is, you will have gained, not lost.

Learn how to be alone

We all know what FOMO feels like — at home on a Fri­day night, con­vinced the rest of the world is par­ty­ing with­out you. What­ever. These days, we’re all about JOMO: the joy of miss­ing out. Ev­ery­one needs to recharge, and some­times Fri­day night is the best time to do it. There’ll al­ways be an­other party but there’s only one of you, so take care of your­self. Get ad­vice from your fem­i­nist fore­bears His­tory is chock full of amaz­ing women to turn to for wis­dom and ad­vice, from writ­ers like Vir­ginia Woolf and Si­mone de Beau­voir, to ac­tivists like An­gela Davis and Glo­ria Steinem. No mat­ter what you’re ex­pe­ri­enc­ing, you can bet some­one’s gone through it be­fore — and they prob­a­bly wrote about it. So cue up that Kin­dle and get read­ing!

Keep your eyes on the prize

No one’s go­ing to hand you your dream ca­reer on a sil­ver plat­ter — you’re go­ing to have to work for it. Once you know what you want, hus­tle your way to­wards it by learn­ing all you can. It could be as sim­ple as in­tern­ing to get experience, or find­ing the right men­tor.

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