GIVING AWAY THE BRIDE
The tradition of giving away the bride comes from a time when women were viewed a little differently to now, though the tradition has evolved with the rest of civilisation and is still a prominent and important part of some ceremonies. It is an optional part of your ceremony, so let your celebrant know if you would like to partake in the tradition or forgo it.
Today, you can take the tradition and make it mean something special to you. Instead of the bride’s father giving her away in exchange for a dowry, animal or financial ‘compensation’, the ceremony can reflect the relationship the bride has with her father, or her parents, and even vice-versa for the bridegroom. Or you could take the ceremony away from the traditional father role, and open it up to the guests or both parents. • The bride is not given away but walks herself down the aisle • The bride and groom together walk down the aisle, the bridal party may have
arrived early or they could join them, perhaps leading the way • The bride is given away by an escort, perhaps a family member • Both the bride and groom could be given away by each of their families, to the
other, in a ceremony performed after walking down the aisle • All of the guests could give the couple away, in a question and response with the guests the celebrant could ask something like: “Family and friends, will you support and love the marriage being solemnised here today?” The guests respond “We will!” • The bride and groom can walk down the aisle themselves having arrived together, or the groom meeting his bride at the end of the aisle and escorting her the final leg. As they get to their parents an exchange, whether formal or emotional, can occur as a sign of honour, respect and thanks • The traditional giving away of the bride involves the father walking the bride down the aisle and giving her to the bridegroom. To represent the modern version of the tradition, the groom could thank the father as he reaches the altar, offering a handshake, high five or a hug and even verbally acknowledge him • A feminine version could have the celebrant asking ”Who gives this woman to be married to this man?” With the bride answering ”She gives herself, but with her family’s blessing.”