Staying in is the new going out
Why feeling the joy of missing out is good for you
Did your ultimate Friday night used to involve drinks, dinner, dancing, a big hit to the credit card and an expensive ride home at 2am? And the same again on Saturday? If that seems like a distant memory now, we’ll hazard a guess that this Friday you’re more likely to be settling in for a night of TV and a glass of wine than posting your freshly made up, town-ready face to Instagram. Staying in is the new going out, though, haven’t you heard?
The FOMO (fear of missing out) that used to propel us out the door at the weekend isn’t so influential today. In fact, many of us are now embracing the joy of missing out as a way to boost our wellbeing. While there are, of course, positives to getting out of the house for a wild night (memories made, friendships forged, finding a new burger joint that doesn’t skimp on the aioli, etc) you should never feel guilty about flagging it all for a night in – it’s for your health, after all. If you still need convincing that putting on a comfy pair of pants and making the most of your Netflix subscription is good for you, read on…
Your ‘no’ muscle gets a workout
Saying ‘no’ to someone else means saying ‘yes’ to yourself. Think of it as a compliment to yourself and feel good about it. We’re pulled in so many different directions every day by the people around us, so being aware of when you need to say ‘no’ and take some time for yourself is of the utmost importance to your health and wellbeing. Keep your ‘yes’ for the important things, the opportunities that allow you to give back and contribute to something you feel is worth your time. When you overcommit and become stressed, you’re more likely to feel rundown and get sick. Remember, your ‘no’ could be an opportunity for someone else to step up instead.
You’ll get more ‘me’ time
A study by the British Psychological Society in 2015 showed that high-quality me-time not only improves your wellbeing, but it might also make you a more engaged employee. “Overall our research suggests if people take time out to recharge their batteries and experience the time taken out as high quality, this reaps benefits for their own psychological wellbeing, their family relationships and for their employers as they are more likely to perform better at work,” says Dr Almuth McDowall from the University of Birkbeck. People are cottoning on to these benefits too, with self-care searches on Pinterest skyrocketing up 121 percent since last year, according to Pinterest researcher Larkin Brown. Go on, draw yourself a bath, get into a good book, do some yoga in the living room or just enjoy a cup of tea in solitude. You deserve it!
It’s a good excuse to have a dinner party
Newsflash: staying in doesn’t have to mean sitting at home on your own. If you’re feeling social, invite a crew over to share in the fun of not going “out” together. Maybe there’s a rugby game on, a movie you and your friends have been dying to watch, or you’re in the mood for a good old-fashioned games night. Whatever the occasion, take the stress off being the host by making the party a potluck and let the food come to you. The last thing you want to do is add anxiety to your evening.
Have actual quality time with people you like
If a deep chat is on the cards, or you’re just after some damn good conversation, that’s not going to happen at a crowded bar. Going from the lounge bar to the lounge room means hanging out only with the people you want to – bonus points for the fact that you don’t have to
queue for the bathroom, pay $12 for a single glass of wine or risk being chatted up by a stranger when all you wanted was some QT with your girlfriend. Connecting with friends on a deeper level has been scientifically proven to be beneficial to your health, too. Yvonne L. Michael, lead researcher on the Nurses’ Health Study, which has gathered data on more than 100,000 nurses since 1976, says having strong friendship connections is just as important for good health as exercise. On Oprah.com, Michael explains that close friendships “provide a buffer for stressful living that is likely to play out through your immune and endocrine systems, allowing you to age healthier.”
Staying in = saving coin
What’s more, shifting your social time from the club to the couch means you’re going to save some serious money. Take those savings and invest them into upping the quality of your time spent at home. Go to We’ar and buy a yoga mat that you’ll have for years (there’s a good one on page 16), splash out on a beautiful body scrub and give yourself a pamper session, or spring for some loungewear that makes you feel a little more luxe. Better yet, think big and plan a holiday. You’ll still have to work for it, but it’s a pretty good incentive to stay home, don’t you think?
1 Rifle Paper Co botanical journal, $42, from Iko Iko.
2 Laurel mug, $9.95, from Cotton On Home. 3 Duett Design Playa Espanola print, $149 (unframed), from themarketnz.com. 4 Washed velvet quilted throw, $179, from Citta. 5 Dallas drop-crotch trackpants, $39.95, from Cotton On Home. 6 Signature round casserole dish, from $460, from Le Creuset. 7 Wool loungers, $160, from Allbirds.
8 Wild flower body oil, $35, from Country Kitchen.
9 Akori cushion, $54.95, from Freedom. 10 Ridley’s chess and checkers, $70, from Mildred & Co. 11 Sweet Strawberry & Blackberry Leaf candle, $49.95, from Ecoya.