5 steps to suc­cess and gen­uine well­be­ing

Meet­ing your spouse for the first time at the al­tar isn’t for ev­ery­one. But on Mar­ried at First Sight, it’s a chance at love. Emma Clifton talks to the ex­perts of the new Kiwi show about the se­crets for re­la­tion­ship suc­cess

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SSo you’ve had some trouble in love. You’ve dated, maybe you’ve di­vorced, you’ve tried the apps, you’ve tried the old-fash­ioned method of going to a pub and chat­ting up the lo­cal tal­ent. But alas, no re­sults. There’s only one thing left to do, really. You have to put your fate into the hands of two strangers who’ll pick your match with­out your in­put and have you marry them im­me­di­ately in a full, tra­di­tional wed­ding in front of all of your friends and fam­ily. That’s the premise of global re­al­ity show Mar­ried At First Sight. Two sin­gles are matched by ex­perts, and the first time they lay eyes on each other is when they’re walk­ing down the aisle. And if you’re won­der­ing how many peo­ple would be in­ter­ested in do­ing this, the an­swer is: a lot. Over 4000 sin­gles put them­selves for­ward for the Kiwi ver­sion of the so­cial ex­per­i­ment, which starts Oc­to­ber 1st on TV3, and you have to ask, well, why? NEXT sat down with the show’s ex­perts, coun­sel­lor Tony Jones and se­nior lec­turer Dr Pan­teá ‘Pani’ Farvid, to have a frank dis­cus­sion about what makes a good TV re­la­tion­ship, why the dat­ing scene has changed so dras­ti­cally in the past five years and how you can im­prove your own re­la­tion­ship.

CON­TES­TANTS 101

It’s the phrase that gets trot­ted out on ev­ery re­al­ity dat­ing show, but making sure some­one is there “for the right rea­sons” really is key, says Pani. “Will going through this show help them grow, help them work through some of the things that may have held them back from hav­ing their pre­vi­ous re­la­tion­ships work?”

Find­ing the show’s sin­gles is a care­ful process. A panel went through ev­ery­one who ap­plied and se­lected a group of po­ten­tial con­tes­tants. They then had to fill out ques­tion­naires about ev­ery­thing and any­thing in their life – what they wanted, what had gone wrong in their past, etc. Then a Skype in­ter­view with the psy­chol­o­gists, then face-to-face meet­ings, then psy­cho­me­t­ric test­ing of their per­son­al­ity types, at­tach­ment styles, com­mu­ni­ca­tion styles, con­flict res­o­lu­tion styles and their love lan­guages.

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