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Meeting your spouse for the first time at the altar isn’t for everyone. But on Married at First Sight, it’s a chance at love. Emma Clifton talks to the experts of the new Kiwi show about the secrets for relationship success
SSo you’ve had some trouble in love. You’ve dated, maybe you’ve divorced, you’ve tried the apps, you’ve tried the old-fashioned method of going to a pub and chatting up the local talent. But alas, no results. There’s only one thing left to do, really. You have to put your fate into the hands of two strangers who’ll pick your match without your input and have you marry them immediately in a full, traditional wedding in front of all of your friends and family. That’s the premise of global reality show Married At First Sight. Two singles are matched by experts, and the first time they lay eyes on each other is when they’re walking down the aisle. And if you’re wondering how many people would be interested in doing this, the answer is: a lot. Over 4000 singles put themselves forward for the Kiwi version of the social experiment, which starts October 1st on TV3, and you have to ask, well, why? NEXT sat down with the show’s experts, counsellor Tony Jones and senior lecturer Dr Panteá ‘Pani’ Farvid, to have a frank discussion about what makes a good TV relationship, why the dating scene has changed so drastically in the past five years and how you can improve your own relationship.
It’s the phrase that gets trotted out on every reality dating show, but making sure someone is there “for the right reasons” really is key, says Pani. “Will going through this show help them grow, help them work through some of the things that may have held them back from having their previous relationships work?”
Finding the show’s singles is a careful process. A panel went through everyone who applied and selected a group of potential contestants. They then had to fill out questionnaires about everything and anything in their life – what they wanted, what had gone wrong in their past, etc. Then a Skype interview with the psychologists, then face-to-face meetings, then psychometric testing of their personality types, attachment styles, communication styles, conflict resolution styles and their love languages.