Every year I set myself goals around my children, my house,
my business, and most importantly myself. I ask the important
question, “What one thing can I change to develop a better
relationship with those important areas in my life?
Creating a bigger picture about your child’s future helps you
and them stay focused day-to-day on working to achieve their
ambitions. Take time and thought to write down what you believe
your child can learn this year, and how they can further develop as
You can talk with your child’s teacher about what they think
your child needs to achieve as well. Teachers are often thinking
about how to develop a wide range of skills in children - not just
Creating your goals together with your child is more effective
than if you do it without them, however, you might like to try
setting goals for them on your own at first, then sharing them
with your child to see what they think.
It is a good idea to display goals somewhere you can look at
them regularly and change them as you achieve them. Keep goals
realistic, but still aim high. Include your child as much as possible.
Your vision of what skills you want to develop in your child
will change over time. So be prepared to discuss them with your
child regularly (at least every term) and change them as they are
achieved, or to adapt them to more accurately reflect your child’s
needs and interests.
• Clearly described and believable
• Ambitious, exciting and important
• For the whole child - intellectual, physical, emotional, spiritual.
Create goals in all or some of the following areas:
• Mind - education/skills
• Body - sports/fitness/health
• Emotions - control and expression
• Spirit - morality/beliefs
Some useful questions include:
• What do I want for my child out of life?
• What sort of person do I want them to become?
• What skills/knowledge/talents do I want them to develop?
Anne Marsh is the author of Coaching Your Children to be Excellent
Students: A Practical Guide. Find out more at