LET­TERS

Parenting - - Contents -

I re­mem­ber my sit­u­a­tion – young, money-fo­cused, im­age­con­scious and self­ish per­haps. Then I found out EJ was preg­nant, and things started to change. I took re­spon­si­bil­ity re­as­sur­ing her that ev­ery­thing would work out – emo­tional sup­port at first, then or­gan­is­ing a plan for our child's ar­rival.

The first thing I did when I be­came a dad was, well, I cried to be per­fectly hon­est. Turns out I hadn’t quite grasped how in­tense and amaz­ing child­birth would be. To wit­ness my very own baby be­ing born was a cock­tail of emo­tions. Part of me and part of my loved one to­gether, to form this tiny per­son. Wow! What a con­cept to grasp.

The first three weeks con­sisted mainly of rou­tine change. It in­volved putting aside the 'me me me' way of life, and work­ing to­wards be­ing a sup­port­ive part­ner and loving fa­ther.

The 'magic six weeks’ was a sub­ject talked about by nu­mer­ous peo­ple. “She’ll start feed­ing, sleep­ing and poop­ing bet­ter then!” they said. But for us there was no 'magic six weeks'. How­ever, hav­ing it as a goal helped us a lot in the be­gin­ning.

At around five weeks our baby girl started to sleep the oc­ca­sional five hours and lately she has even been known to sleep right through the night (we’re lucky, we know! Fin­gers crossed it’ll last). The feed­ing and latch­ing prob­lems we thought would never end are now a thing of the past, and the poos on the floor, sleep­less nights and scream­ing con­tests are all worth it to see our very own sponge learn and grow by the day.

I love com­ing home to smiles from our beau­ti­ful girl. It re­minds me what a unique kind of love this is. Micah Lid­di­coat

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