Your top tips!
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In July we asked our supporters to send in their top parenting tips. Thank you to everyone who took the time to send in their words of first-hand experience and wisdom, and also to those who generously included a donation to support our work. It was wonderful to get so many parenting tips to share, reflecting the advice taken to heart from Ian and Mary Grant, John Cowan, our Toolbox team, Family Coaches, and many others.
Here are a few of the gems –
Stop and take a deep breath before reacting to tricky situations. Staying calm is really hard, but it is worth the effort. When you miss the mark of 'calm' however (quite normal!), offer an apology and a hug – honesty and hugs work wonders.
It’s okay/good to admit to your kids when you’ve made a mistake and to ask for their forgiveness – to model honesty and vulnerability. We’re all on a journey.
When your kids are behaving the worst, they need you the most. Whenever this popped into my head, I would say to my toddler, “Come and have a cuddle”. To my older child, “You look like you need a hug,” and to my teenager, “Are you okay? Is everything alright?” It worked every time.
Enjoy the moments. Every age and stage has its challenges, but remember to pause and enjoy the moments!
Time spent with children and love shown to them matters most – not being the perfect parent. Don’t be too hard on yourself if you slip up. Just learn and move on.
The most important thing to children is that their parents love, value and spend time with each other. This makes the children feel secure, and children who feel secure do not need to be the centre of their parents’ attention at all times.
Be who you want your children to be. If you want them to be kind, be kind. If you want them to be generous, be generous. If you want them to be calm, be calm. Children become who we are to them. They’re our mirror.