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In July we asked our sup­port­ers to send in their top par­ent­ing tips. Thank you to every­one who took the time to send in their words of first-hand ex­pe­ri­ence and wis­dom, and also to those who gen­er­ously in­cluded a do­na­tion to sup­port our work. It was won­der­ful to get so many par­ent­ing tips to share, re­flect­ing the ad­vice taken to heart from Ian and Mary Grant, John Cowan, our Tool­box team, Fam­ily Coaches, and many oth­ers.

Here are a few of the gems –

Stop and take a deep breath be­fore re­act­ing to tricky sit­u­a­tions. Stay­ing calm is re­ally hard, but it is worth the ef­fort. When you miss the mark of 'calm' how­ever (quite nor­mal!), of­fer an apol­ogy and a hug – hon­esty and hugs work won­ders.

It’s okay/good to ad­mit to your kids when you’ve made a mis­take and to ask for their for­give­ness – to model hon­esty and vul­ner­a­bil­ity. We’re all on a jour­ney.

When your kids are be­hav­ing the worst, they need you the most. When­ever this popped into my head, I would say to my tod­dler, “Come and have a cud­dle”. To my older child, “You look like you need a hug,” and to my teenager, “Are you okay? Is every­thing al­right?” It worked ev­ery time.

En­joy the mo­ments. Ev­ery age and stage has its chal­lenges, but re­mem­ber to pause and en­joy the mo­ments!

Time spent with chil­dren and love shown to them mat­ters most – not be­ing the per­fect par­ent. Don’t be too hard on your­self if you slip up. Just learn and move on.

The most im­por­tant thing to chil­dren is that their par­ents love, value and spend time with each other. This makes the chil­dren feel se­cure, and chil­dren who feel se­cure do not need to be the cen­tre of their par­ents’ at­ten­tion at all times.

Be who you want your chil­dren to be. If you want them to be kind, be kind. If you want them to be gen­er­ous, be gen­er­ous. If you want them to be calm, be calm. Chil­dren be­come who we are to them. They’re our mir­ror.

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