Cre­at­ing op­tions gives us power to change our sit­u­a­tions.

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There is also the need to have a fam­ily frame­work for man­ag­ing emo­tions. When our kids are re­ally up­set about something it can be wise to pause and firstly ac­knowl­edge their feel­ings –“I can see you’re re­ally dis­ap­pointed. That makes sense.” Make it okay for them to have the feel­ing – don’t try to talk them out of it or glide over it in the hope that you can get them mov­ing on quickly! That can be counter-pro­duc­tive.

Some­times kids just need to know that we know how they are feel­ing and then they’re able to move on by them­selves. Other times, they may need to off­load the story and the emo­tion. As they start to feel a lit­tle calmer, we can coach them to brain­storm ideas about what will make them feel bet­ter, how to sort the sit­u­a­tion out or let it go. I ask kids to give me 'three good ideas'. Cre­at­ing op­tions give us power to change our sit­u­a­tions. (It is good for

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