Su­per Gran was once a lousy mum

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she’s likely to tell it as she re­mem­bers it. You need to be sure you want all this if you de­cide to continue.

You’re the par­ent now and by the sounds of it, you and your hus­band are do­ing a good job. But there’s no guar­an­tees that your girls will stay bright and won­der­ful so you need to try to main­tain their har­mo­nious en­vi­ron­ment.

You’ll inevitably take your eye off the par­ent­ing ball if you be­gin to tackle your mother. If dis­trac­tion and a sense of chaos were the fac­tors that pushed you off the rails then by pur­su­ing a con­fronta­tion, you could be invit­ing those same fac­tors back into your daugh­ters’ lives. You might in­tend your dis­cus­sion to be pri­vate and con­fined to the adults in­volved, but chil­dren have acute an­ten­nae when it comes to ten­sion and dishar­mony. The rip­ples that spread as you try to ex­tract this apol­ogy may not be worth it.

Your mother has had her turn and in your opin­ion, she stuffed up. No mat­ter what she says about the past, you can be sure she’ll be watch­ing you and pri­vately com­par­ing your ef­forts with her own. For var­i­ous rea­sons, some peo­ple are in­ca­pable of apol­o­gis­ing. Maybe be­ing Su­per Gran to the girls who adore her, is the best apol­ogy she’s ca­pa­ble of.

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She loves her grand­kids but her own chil­dren were her last pri­or­ity.

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