This is YOUR Life - Live It
Personal Coaching for South Waikato by Tracey Deane.
Part Six: I can’t because I can’t get past my ‘‘I can’t...’’?
It can happen to any of us. We could have been using these reasons and excuses to stop us from moving forward, since we were children.
They can be quite built-in to our system by the time we are adults so don’t beat yourself up if the excuse has a good hold on you!
Have you heard the saying ‘‘Imagine, what you think, you create. What you feel, you attract’’? (Adele Basheev)
If you want to move forward, learn to understand your ‘‘I can’t’’.
Take a good look and see if there is any truth in it, or is it just something someone said once, and you now believe it?
It’s time to revisit those thoughts.
Some facts can’t be avoided, but they can be worked around.
‘‘I’m too young to join the forces’’ may mean that you change the date until 2 years’ time, so plan for that.
‘‘I’m too young to be a pop star’’ may be stopping you from writing a hit, but we all know that this is an ‘excuse’ because we celebrate Lorde’s success.
Separate the facts from the excuses.
Get to understand yourself. Change the way you think because what you are thinking affects what you create.
Some people LIKE to be able to moan about what didn’t happen. Do you know anyone like that? Misery loves company. Do you recognise a group of people who get together and talk about dramas and what didn’t happen?
If you are surrounded by this, it may be affecting your ability to make things happen in your life.
You don’t have to get rid of these people, but you may find it easier to spend less time around them when you are focused on achieving something.
Set yourself up to win. What you feel, you attract.
For a time, you may need to seek out and spend time with people who support you in your goals, and if there are no people, find role models, quotes, books, song lyrics, your spiritual self, anything that gives you the support you need to get where you want to go.
Do you want that goal enough?
This exercise alone, will teach you a lot about what makes you tick. We are all different! It will allow you to strip yourself back to your real truth, not the lies that the world around us might have us believe. Who you really are. What you really want in this lifetime.
What can stop you.
If you think about it being an exercise in learning about yourself, it is a fantastic learning curve and one that I highly recommend if you want to do great things in this lifetime.
Many people go through life moaning, making excuses, and never getting anywhere fast.
They settle for their lot in life. They may never have seen these tools (or the many others) – but you have.
They may never take a good look inside themselves and learn about themselves – but you are.
It is very important to be kind to yourself, while you learn about yourself.
None of us are perfect. We all have to work with what we’ve got and we have to know what we’ve got, in order to use it properly.
You are currently writing your user manual!
Next time: How to motivate myself TraceyDeaneForSW@gmail.com