Learn the ‘go’ buttons
THIS IS YOUR LIFE – LIVE IT Using responses to achievement PART SEVEN: HOW TO MOTIVATE MYSELF Personal Coaching for South Waikato, by Tracey Deane
Motivation is about learning what makes you tick – and getting it to work for you.
Some people are motivated by finishing a project, doing a perfect job, making money, making other people happy, keeping life simple, passing a test, ticking the boxes, changing the world, etc. What motivates you? On a fresh page at the back of your workbook, head up: ‘‘What motivates me?’’ Start writing.
If you get stuck, these two tools might help.
1. List as many times as you can remember, when you felt really good, content, happy, joyful, satisfied, awesome. What had just happened?
Was it winning? Was it helping? Was it giving? Was it receiving? Was it the people around you? Was it passing a test? Was it someone saying something (what did they say)?
For some of these, the motivator will be obvious.
For example: ‘‘I won!’’ This means you can be motivated by a challenge.
A challenge against yourself, or another person? This can be used to help you obtain a goal, if you get a friend to go for a goal at the same time. Or was it the moment of getting the medal/ trophy and standing up to accept it? This is a different motivator.
‘‘I work with great people doing a project for the community.’’ This can mean you are more motivated by the work you do, than by money.
‘‘I got a pay rise’’ Was it the money or the acknowledgement you are worth it? These are two different motivators.
2. Think of a time when you have become ‘‘stuck’’ trying to achieve something – what happened to get you to take the next step forward? This can be another good motivator or at least a nudge for you when you need it.
See how you go with this. Sometimes, you can look to your role models or read about others who have tried to do great things to learn other ways to overcome obstacles on the path.
You can now match the appropriate motivator in your list, to different parts of your ‘‘to do’’ list, and you can turn to this page if you ever get stuck.
Food for Thought: Many think they are motivated by money, and it is true money can be used as a motivator in a good way.
Here’s a story of a very ‘‘ successful’’ gentleman, a banker, who was earning huge money and had been climbing the corporate ladder for many years.
By Western world standards he ‘‘had it all’’ and had definitely ‘‘made it’’. He was sad the day he spoke with me, because his wife (and children) had recently left him.
He taught me this lesson: The career ladder goes up and up – forever. It is up to us to decide when we want to get off. When is the income at the right level for us to really enjoy everything we want to in this life?
Next Time: How can I get there faster? – TraceyDeaneForSW@ gmail.com