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THIS IS YOUR LIFE – LIVE IT Us­ing re­sponses to achieve­ment PART SEVEN: HOW TO MO­TI­VATE MY­SELF Per­sonal Coach­ing for South Waikato, by Tracey Deane

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Mo­ti­va­tion is about learn­ing what makes you tick – and get­ting it to work for you.

Some peo­ple are mo­ti­vated by fin­ish­ing a project, do­ing a per­fect job, mak­ing money, mak­ing other peo­ple happy, keep­ing life sim­ple, pass­ing a test, tick­ing the boxes, chang­ing the world, etc. What mo­ti­vates you? On a fresh page at the back of your work­book, head up: ‘‘What mo­ti­vates me?’’ Start writ­ing.

If you get stuck, th­ese two tools might help.

1. List as many times as you can re­mem­ber, when you felt re­ally good, con­tent, happy, joy­ful, sat­is­fied, awe­some. What had just hap­pened?

Was it win­ning? Was it help­ing? Was it giv­ing? Was it re­ceiv­ing? Was it the peo­ple around you? Was it pass­ing a test? Was it some­one say­ing some­thing (what did they say)?

For some of th­ese, the mo­ti­va­tor will be ob­vi­ous.

For ex­am­ple: ‘‘I won!’’ This means you can be mo­ti­vated by a chal­lenge.

A chal­lenge against your­self, or another per­son? This can be used to help you ob­tain a goal, if you get a friend to go for a goal at the same time. Or was it the mo­ment of get­ting the medal/ trophy and stand­ing up to ac­cept it? This is a dif­fer­ent mo­ti­va­tor.

‘‘I work with great peo­ple do­ing a project for the com­mu­nity.’’ This can mean you are more mo­ti­vated by the work you do, than by money.

‘‘I got a pay rise’’ Was it the money or the ac­knowl­edge­ment you are worth it? Th­ese are two dif­fer­ent mo­ti­va­tors.

2. Think of a time when you have be­come ‘‘stuck’’ try­ing to achieve some­thing – what hap­pened to get you to take the next step for­ward? This can be another good mo­ti­va­tor or at least a nudge for you when you need it.

See how you go with this. Some­times, you can look to your role mod­els or read about oth­ers who have tried to do great things to learn other ways to over­come ob­sta­cles on the path.

You can now match the ap­pro­pri­ate mo­ti­va­tor in your list, to dif­fer­ent parts of your ‘‘to do’’ list, and you can turn to this page if you ever get stuck.

Food for Thought: Many think they are mo­ti­vated by money, and it is true money can be used as a mo­ti­va­tor in a good way.

Here’s a story of a very ‘‘ suc­cess­ful’’ gen­tle­man, a banker, who was earn­ing huge money and had been climb­ing the cor­po­rate lad­der for many years.

By Western world stan­dards he ‘‘had it all’’ and had def­i­nitely ‘‘made it’’. He was sad the day he spoke with me, be­cause his wife (and chil­dren) had re­cently left him.

He taught me this les­son: The ca­reer lad­der goes up and up – for­ever. It is up to us to de­cide when we want to get off. When is the in­come at the right level for us to re­ally en­joy ev­ery­thing we want to in this life?

Next Time: How can I get there faster? – TraceyDeaneForSW@ gmail.com

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