Alice Sned­den

Sunday Star-Times - Escape - - FRONT PAGE -

be­come fem­i­nists when they have daugh­ters or marry women is mad­den­ing.

If you have to have a daugh­ter to be a fem­i­nist, or to un­der­stand why women are im­por­tant, then your val­ues are skewed. You should have a stake in the game be­cause it’s the de­cent thing to do, not be­cause you’ve now lit­er­ally got a stake in the game.

Whether it’s in­tended or not, this lan­guage and ra­tio­nale is all about defin­ing women and their worth by their re­la­tion­ship to men, when car­ing about women’s rights should be a sim­ple mat­ter of de­cency. The truth of the mat­ter is that be­ing a woman was hard be­fore your daugh­ter was born, and it would still be hard if she weren’t.

As far as I’m con­cerned, there are and should only be two re­quire­ments to be­ing a fem­i­nist:

1) You be­lieve in equal­ity for men and women and that nei­ther should be dis­crim­i­nated against be­cause of their gen­der, and

2) You’re com­fort­able in Birken­stocks, or at least com­fort­able with other peo­ple be­ing com­fort­able with Birken­stocks.

Fa­ther to a daugh­ter, or hus­band to a wife, is not and never will be, one of the cri­te­ria.

Newspapers in English

Newspapers from New Zealand

© PressReader. All rights reserved.