Sex ad­vice

Sunday Star-Times - Sunday Magazine - - ADVICE -

I met a won­der­ful lady by chance on a flight across Aus­tralia from Mil­dura to Mel­bourne ear­lier this year. She was re­turn­ing to her home in Welling­ton af­ter work­ing for six weeks at the Mil­dura Base Hospi­tal. I’d been vis­it­ing my daugh­ter. The thing is we made a won­der­ful nat­u­ral con­nec­tion as we talked and there seemed to be a mystical or un­ex­plained en­ergy force that drew me to her, per­haps she also felt it! The flight ended too soon and we dis­em­barked and went our sep­a­rate ways. How­ever, I can’t get this lovely lady out of my mind and now won­der if it was a lost op­por­tu­nity or just Karma!

I would very much like to visit Welling­ton and take this lady out to din­ner but have no con­tact de­tails, not even her name! What do I know? She is very a beau­ti­ful ma­ture lady with three adult chil­dren and a Labrador dog. She works as a nurse. So do I just for­get this woman and put it down as a lost op­por­tu­nity or, through your­self and the news­pa­per, do I try to find her and – in find­ing her – per­haps find love? What a great ro­man­tic story and of course it begs a happy end­ing. I can’t in­clude all your de­tails in this lit­tle col­umn but I would en­cour­age you to use other forms of so­cial me­dia to reach out to your beau­ti­ful lady.

Should you be lucky enough to find her, I trust life will have al­ready taught you that pow­er­ful at­trac­tion – even when re­cip­ro­cated – is no guar­an­tee of love. While it’s an ex­cel­lent and ex­cit­ing start, you two would need to spend time get­ting to know each other and shar­ing more of your sto­ries, goals and pri­or­i­ties to dis­cover if there’s enough of a fit to be able to suc­cess­fully bring your lives to­gether into a re­la­tion­ship. If you’re not suc­cess­ful in mak­ing con­tact, I do hope this ex­pe­ri­ence will en­cour­age you – the next time you find your­self at­tracted to some­one – to gather your courage, ask for her name and tell her you’ve en­joyed her com­pany so much you’d like to keep in touch.

The worst that would hap­pen is she’d say no. Can you bear that?

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