Loss felt on Mothers’ Day

Taupo Times - - PAGE 17 PAGE 18 - PHILLIPA YALDEN Con­tin­ued P5

‘‘Now I will never get to plan a wed­ding for them or any­thing like that.’’

Every other Mother’s Day, Krysta De Khan cooked a meal for her fam­ily.

She’d sit down with her two boys, their part­ners and their seven chil­dren for some qual­ity fam­ily time.

This year, her sons weren’t there to cook for.

The 53-year-old mother lost both in the last 10 months.

The el­der, Lo­gan Grif­fith, was killed on April 27 when he fell off his Har­ley mo­tor­cy­cle near the Te Haroto sum­mit along State High­way 5 while rid­ing home from Hast­ings to Taupo.

He’d been at­tend­ing the fu­neral of fel­low High­way 61 biker Steven Ward, who died in a headon col­li­sion with an­other mo­tor­cy­clist near Toko­roa the week be­fore.

The 33-year-old fa­ther’s death came af­ter his brother Ben Grif­fith, 28, was found dead in a car in Taupo last June. His death is cur­rently be­fore the Coro­ner.

‘‘In our fam­ily, Mother’s Day was the only day I re­ally cook for them - and that’s their Mother’s Day - we sit down and that’s their time.

To have both sons ripped away in quick suc­ces­sion has been heart-wrench­ing for De Khan, who is now rais­ing Lo­gan’s 12-year-old son, along­side her for­mer part­ner Neil Grif­fith.

She’s asked her­self why too many times to name.

‘‘They were taken for a rea­son and it must be a bloody good rea­son be­cause some­one needed them more than me and that’s not very nice.’’

Since her younger son’s death, De Khan has pon­dered many the­o­ries. She keeps re­turn­ing to one.

‘‘We all have a num­ber on our head and there’s noth­ing you can do to stop it - that’s what keeps me go­ing.

‘‘Now I will never get to plan a wed­ding for them or any­thing like that. I will miss their Easter eggs and Ben was the big­gest kid when it came to Easter eggs. It’s all sur­real to me.’’

Both boys grew up in Taupo and Lo­gan had re­cently mov­ing back to the lake­side town from Hawke’s Bay with his blended fam­ily.

The ‘‘goofy’’ son with the in­fec­tious laugh was a fa­ther to three chil­dren - Kiarni, 13, and Karma, 12, who both live in Hawke’s Bay, and baby Benji-Rose. He was also a step­fa­ther to his part­ner’s two chil­dren. Ben left be­hind two chil­dren - Seth and Leah.

ROBERT STEVEN/FAIRFAX NZ

Krysta De Khan with a photo of her sons Ben, left, and Lo­gan, which was taken at Lo­gan’s 21st.

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The Grif­fith boys; Ben [left] and Lo­gan.

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