Loss felt on Mothers’ Day
‘‘Now I will never get to plan a wedding for them or anything like that.’’
Every other Mother’s Day, Krysta De Khan cooked a meal for her family.
She’d sit down with her two boys, their partners and their seven children for some quality family time.
This year, her sons weren’t there to cook for.
The 53-year-old mother lost both in the last 10 months.
The elder, Logan Griffith, was killed on April 27 when he fell off his Harley motorcycle near the Te Haroto summit along State Highway 5 while riding home from Hastings to Taupo.
He’d been attending the funeral of fellow Highway 61 biker Steven Ward, who died in a headon collision with another motorcyclist near Tokoroa the week before.
The 33-year-old father’s death came after his brother Ben Griffith, 28, was found dead in a car in Taupo last June. His death is currently before the Coroner.
‘‘In our family, Mother’s Day was the only day I really cook for them - and that’s their Mother’s Day - we sit down and that’s their time.
To have both sons ripped away in quick succession has been heart-wrenching for De Khan, who is now raising Logan’s 12-year-old son, alongside her former partner Neil Griffith.
She’s asked herself why too many times to name.
‘‘They were taken for a reason and it must be a bloody good reason because someone needed them more than me and that’s not very nice.’’
Since her younger son’s death, De Khan has pondered many theories. She keeps returning to one.
‘‘We all have a number on our head and there’s nothing you can do to stop it - that’s what keeps me going.
‘‘Now I will never get to plan a wedding for them or anything like that. I will miss their Easter eggs and Ben was the biggest kid when it came to Easter eggs. It’s all surreal to me.’’
Both boys grew up in Taupo and Logan had recently moving back to the lakeside town from Hawke’s Bay with his blended family.
The ‘‘goofy’’ son with the infectious laugh was a father to three children - Kiarni, 13, and Karma, 12, who both live in Hawke’s Bay, and baby Benji-Rose. He was also a stepfather to his partner’s two children. Ben left behind two children - Seth and Leah.
Krysta De Khan with a photo of her sons Ben, left, and Logan, which was taken at Logan’s 21st.
The Griffith boys; Ben [left] and Logan.