Couple delight in 60 years
‘‘It was lovely, I can't get over it.’’ Alma Katene
The secret to 60 years of happy marriage is taking a moment to listen, a Taupo couple say.
Alma and Gable Katene got married in 1956, at Karioi, near Ohakune.
Now 81 and 80 years old, Gable said the couple had known each other since they were children.
‘‘We went to school together, to high school together and then I went away and worked – shearing, scrubcutting. But I returned to Karioi, and we’ve been together since then,’’ Gable said.
Alma said she and Gable had disagreements at times, but they always make time to listen to each other.
‘‘Pull together. If you argue, discuss it – don’t go against each other,’’ she said. Gable agreed. ‘‘Naturally, in your life, you do have disagreements, but we talked it over, and it’s alright
‘‘We had our disputes when we were younger, but as we got older, we linked more together,’’ he said.
Spending their evenings together was another guiding principle, Alma said.
’’We never went out without one another,’’ she said.
Whether going to the pub, a party, or a sports game, the Katenes both went along, glued at the hip.
‘‘We always stuck together, all the time, and you got used to that type of life. And you felt guilty if you didn’t do it,’’ Gable said.
‘‘We’ve always had a lot of mates who we’d go and mix with, so it’s not a problem.’’
Gable and Alma have six children, 21 grandchildren and 24 greatgrandchildren.
The couple raised their children in Masterton, where Gable ran a sheep farm and Alma ran a restaurant. They moved to Taupo in the 1980s. Gable worked for Fitcher’s Wood Panels and Alma ran the Taupo Bowling Club kitchen until she retired.
Alma credited her and Gable’s good health to giving up smoking and drinking.
Alma and Gable’s children secretly organised a party, with 120 friends, to commemorate the couple’s 60th anniversary,
The pair were told nothing about the event, except to dress in white.
Alma said the evening at Taupo Golf Club on December 26 last year – celebrated with 120 friends and family – was overwhelming.
‘‘It was lovely, I can’t get over it,’’ she said.
‘‘The hall was all done out in white – the walls, the ceiling, the tables.
‘‘I’ll never forget it.’’
Alma and Gable Katene say their 60-year marriage has been successful because they’ve always been willing to discuss disagreements.