Own your own pos­i­tive tribe

The Invercargill Eye - - CONVERSATIONS -

seen you do in a sim­i­lar sit­u­a­tion? Do they wit­ness a ‘fake it til ya make it’, or do they see a mum/ dad who is gen­uine?

Whether your view of the world comes from a pos­i­tive or a neg­a­tive space due to your own up­bring­ing and ex­pe­ri­ences, then that is what your kids will feed off. If you haven’t fig­ured it out yet, your wee dar­lings soak it all up – the good, the bad, the ugly – but team, the younger ones are not that great at pro­cess­ing it all (this may have come back to bite you once or twice huh).

What they hear may not be what they ac­tu­ally hear, even the great stuff! Your job is to get the mes­sage across, loud and clear.

Don’t fob off the jour­ney to your school, your mates, their mates. You are their par­ents/ care­givers. Ask the hard ques­tions and de­cide to be in­ten­tional about rais­ing these awe­some mini me’s to be the best adults they can be (stop com­par­ing your fam­ily to oth­ers, if you are do­ing this you are pro­ject­ing some­thing. Could be in­fe­ri­or­ity or su­pe­ri­or­ity maybe?).

And if you are go­ing through tough times or feel a bit lost or help­less, seek out some sup­port.

We have ac­cess to so much in­cred­i­ble and pro­fes­sional ad­vice. Ev­ery great ad­ven­ture started with one small step.

Own your zone team – you’re shap­ing the kids who will ei­ther build up or break down. Huge.


Jo Smith is a colum­nist, former teacher and mother of five.

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