As parents we are hugely responsible for the way our kids view their world.
Lots of people say they could never teach kids but the reality is, all parents are teachers.
Our kids learn from us every day. We shape their values, their beliefs and their often bumpy journey into adulthood. How we respond through our actions and words has a major influence on how they will act and speak.
Oh, I know, we all grow up through ages and stages and while some of those are universal (talking growth, hormones etc here) the way kids will handle these depends largely on us.
Do you see our world through a negative lens or a positive one?
Shine a light on your heart here. Nothing? Dig a bit deeper. Have a good look around. Being honest with our kids starts with being honest about ourselves.
They aren’t stupid, these wee darlings of ours. They see ‘home’ mum/dad and they see ‘out’ mum/dad. At times the difference can be staggering.
A wee example could be when you’re off to visit friends and family. They parent differently to you. You know what? Everyone parents differently to you.
How do you prep your kids for the possible ‘‘They don’t wanna play with me’’ scenario or ‘‘ I don’t wanna go ‘cos it’s boring’’ or ‘‘(insert name) is weird?’’
How you respond here is key. And let’s be honest, before you have shut the door your lot are perhaps fighting over who’s sitting where, who’s choosing the first song, who’s looking out who’s window rubbish.
Now ask yourself ‘‘What is my typical response to this?’’
Remembering of course, that it probably took a bit to get this zoo out of the house anyway.
Do you speak agreement into their negativity or do your words encourage them to get amongst it, find something everyone can play for a bit at least, be kind and have fun? What have they heard and