Is my son stealing from us?
It’s a shame your partner didn’t speak up a while ago. Your son has been working and has bought something big for himself but your partner’s late call now brings your son’s credibility into question. It’s harder dealing with this after the fact.
Many households have varying opinions on how relaxed they are about their children taking things that are lying around, ie, clothes, treats or money. In some families, loose change is seen as communal and no-one keeps tabs on who owns the coins, while in other families there are clearer boundaries. It seems that your partner has been fairly casual about his change until now and this might be a good time to decide how you feel and set some guidelines.
I think a blanket rule that says no-one in the family should take anything that doesn’t belong to them without asking first is a good safeguard. Your son would know that the coins lying in a dish beside your partner’s car keys belong to your partner. Perhaps take a moment to have a private chat with him where you make it clear that this money is not for the taking.
Some children are born with an innate sense of managing or acquiring money and your son sounds enterprising, to say the least. There are life lessons in every aspect of handling money for young people and it sounds as if you’re in the perfect situation to help him. If he’s running his own business and is already quite successful, then chat to him about paying those who work for him, about saving and banking etc.
Can he account for the money he’s spent? You might be best to learn
Where is my son getting all the money he’s spending?