Ways to get on top of bullying behaviour
Unfortunately, there are lots of bullies out there and bullying behaviour can begin from a very young age.
As parents, it is vital that we support our children to understand that this sort of behaviour is unacceptable and teach them skills to use instead of bullying to get what the bullying was achieving.
Children who bully need to be disciplined for the behaviour through the use of consequences, however they also need to have strategies they can use instead.
A good example is when a child bullies to impress onlookers.
He wants to show he is part of the group so he picks on someone who is different. If this isn’t stopped then the bully will continue to behave in this manner.
However, if you discipline the bully by ensuring they miss out on something they enjoy doing, they are learning that there is a consequence for that negative behaviour. Along with applying a consequence, you also need to support the child to learn skills to make friends and fit in such as:
How to approach peers and how to ask to join in their game
How to say positive thing about other people
How to play games and practice turn taking?
How to be a good sport
How to be empathetic to others. Good social skills as an antidote to bullying.
Brenda Holdaway is the Whanau Facilitator with Nelson Tasman Kindergartens.