The need for dis­ci­pline


House­holds where there is no dis­ci­pline can be chaotic and dis­or­gan­ised so chil­dren are raised lack­ing vi­tal life skills.

Hav­ing dis­ci­pline in the household pro­motes among other things self-re­straint, and gen­eral good be­hav­iour.

It brings struc­ture and sta­bil­ity, along with re­spon­si­bil­ity and re­spect.

Think of sport, where dis­ci­pline is the fun­da­men­tal as­pect on which all sport has been cre­ated.

Ev­ery player/par­tic­i­pant must ad­here to the rules/guide­lines oth­er­wise the sport wouldn’t work, hence the need for um­pires and ref­er­ees.

As a par­ent you could liken your­self to a ref­eree or um­pire. You are re­spon­si­ble for en­sur­ing your household has rules/guide­lines and that these are ad­hered to.

To sup­port chil­dren to un­der­stand what is ac­cept­able, vi­su­alise the rules, and let the chil­dren have in­put into them, they might come up with rules that you don’t think are nec­es­sary but may be im­por­tant to them.

If they are vi­su­alised then when­ever some­one breaks a rule, you can re­mind them by show­ing them the picture of what the ac­cept­able be­hav­iour is.

Brenda Holdaway is the Whanau fa­cil­i­ta­tor for Nel­son Tas­man Kinder­gartens.

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