My teenage daughter has no friends
Q: My 14-year-old daughter has no good friends. It really bothers her, she feels selfconscious about it. She went to a small rural primary school and because of her birthday date, my husband, her teacher, and I had to make a decision whether she should go into the next year up, or stay where she is for another year.
We chose to keep her down for another year, we thought it may benefit her academically. Our decision to not put her up caused her to be the oldest/most mature in her year group. That decision was made 9-10 years ago and I still question it because the only strong friendships she has ever had have been in the year above her.
She has played sport and joined out-of-school clubs since primary school and still plays sport but no friendships have come from it and she is now wanting to quit.
I guess what I am asking is, what can I do for her? As a parent it breaks my heart to know she sits by herself at school. When she gets rejected or excluded from a friend group she is trying to join it really knocks her confidence and upsets her.
The only times my daughter goes out socially is when she has organised it, people cancel on her so she has stopped trying. She hasn’t been invited to a birthday party let alone just hanging out with mates since primary school. She’s constantly asking to move school but because of where we live moving school is not an option.
Many children find their schooldays tough and it’s not until they leave school that they find their real friends.