Elder abuse never OK
Elder abuse is the most silent form of abuse, according to Age Concern’s Robyn Baker.
World Elder Abuse Awareness Week may end today, but the issue of physical, emotional and psychological abuse, especially from family members, is a year-round problem.
Robyn says her staff have noticed an increase in self-referrals by older people who feel threatened or taken advantage of. She says there is an increasing awareness about this among older folk.
While there are scams that target the elderly, much of the abuse is meted out by family members. A difficulty is that what happens in families often stays in families, and there are all kinds of subtle pressures family members can bring to bear, including neglect, gradual isolation, and by abusing assumed powers of attorney.
‘‘No form of abuse is OK – especially for our older adults.’’
Robyn says one of the best ways to protect older, lonely and vulnerable people is to have networks.
‘‘The community is working together for our elder citizens. It’s not just one organisation. Just as it takes a community to raise a child, it takes a community to look after our elderly.’’
The week has focused attention on the steps older people can take to protect themselves from abusive situations. Palmerston North Senior Citizens president Elsie Downing says she has come across a number while delivering Meals on Wheels.
‘‘There was the son who sold his mother’s house out from over her head, and then gave her a week’s notice.’’
Elsie and others who work in the community are able to report situations like that to Robyn or to social service agencies.
She says the city’s Senior Citizens Hall on Main St across from the Globe theatre also provides somewhere for people to find company and friendship, the all-ages gold coin Tuesday afternoon concert proving particularly popular.
TENNIS Social Doubles: Manawatu Lawn Tennis Club, Fitzherbert Ave next to PNGHS, 9 – 11am followed by morning tea. Members free, casual $5. Enquiries Jenny 354 6271. MENZSHED MANAWATU: Community woodworking workshop mainly for older men. Work on your own project or a group community project, Mangaone Park, Racecourse Rd, 9am – 2pm. New members welcome. Enquiries David 357 4045. TAI CHI: Tuesdays and Wednesdays, 9.15 – 10.15am, Chinese Association Hall, 98 Napier Rd. Beginners and experienced welcome. Enquiries PN Tai Chi Club, 357 1377. DOODLEBUGS Playgroup: Preschool children and their parents/ caregivers, 9.30am – 12noon yellow gate, St David’s Church, opposite Memorial Park, Main St. Inside and outside free play, morning tea. MOE approved. Koha/donation welcomed. Enquiries Pam 358 1964. HOUSIE TUESDAYS: 40 games, super house, keno, 10am, Terrace End Bowling Club, Summerhays St. All welcome, plenty of parking. Enquiries Jacquie RSA Welfare Trust, 356 7673. MAINLY MUSIC: Parents and preschoolers music, dancing and fair-trade coffee, corner Featherston and Kingswood St, 10am. Gold coin koha. Enquiries Margaret Barsanti 027 406 6315. PLUNKET: Clothing Swap Shop 10 – 11.30am, Family Centre, 42 Albert St. Enquiries Leandra 021 808 340. MEETING POINT: Crafts, knitting, sewing, crocheting, painting, budget cooking, tai chi, cards, morning tea, St David’s Community Centre, cnr Main and Rainforth Sts (opp Memorial Park) 10am – 12noon. All welcome. Creche available. Gold coin koha. Enquiries 358 3246. PASIFIKA OUTREACH CLINIC: Free health clinics for Pasifika, Church on Vogel, 127 Vogel St, 10.30am – 4pm. Enquiries Folale Fai 027 452 3615/ Aluisi Vudiniabola 027 274 8109/ Saane Ma’u 021 662 118. BREASTFEEDING SUPPORT: Free Head Start Parenting Sessions – baby basics, car seat safety, babywearing & dental hygiene for you & your baby. Afternoon tea provided. Community Birth Services, Westside Chambers, 151 The Square. Enquiries 354 6455. INDOOR BOWLS: Three games and a cuppa, Northern Bowling Club, 1.15pm. Enquiries Bevan 354 7466. TUESDAY CONCERT: Come early for raffles. All ages welcome, 1.30pm, Senior Citizens Hall, 309 Main St (opposite Globe Theatre), gold coin koha. Enquiries Elsie 358 0994 (evenings). CENTRAL CONNECTIONS: A singing group for people with neurological disabilities, 1.30 – 3pm, Central Baptist Church, Church St. Enquiries Janine Dann, 06 324 7172/ 021 050 3593 GIRLS’ BRIGADE: Affordable activities for girls in Highbury/Takaro & Hokowhitu 4.30 – 6pm. Enquiries Joanne 355 3124, girlsbrigade.nz. SKATING: MSSC Learn to Skate weekly classes with NZ representative skaters and coaches. Skates available or BYO, 4.45 – 5.30pm, Bell Hall, Arena 5, Waldegrave St. Enquiries Kylie Shirley 358 2301. MINDFULNESS MEDITATION: Non-sectarian group meditation with Dr Douglas Osto (Ph D) 6 – 7 pm., Theosophical Society 304 Church St. Entry $5, unwaged gold coin koha. Enquiries Anthea 353 6221/ firstname.lastname@example.org MARCHING: Fun, fitness, friendship for ex marchers wanting to get back into marching, or anyone wanting to try it out, 6 – 8pm. Enquiries Jennie 358 0585/ 027 3680 383, email@example.com MODEL RAILWAY Club: Papaioea Pl clubrooms, 7pm. British OO gauge exhibition layout to run stock on. New members welcome. Enquiries 354 1208/ 022 068 1821. CAN YOU SING?: Confident singers wanted for all-women’s chorus. Fun, music and friendship with the Manawatu Overtones, Milson Combined Church Hall, 7pm. Enquiries Jenni 356 8585 (A/H)/ Linda 358 5883. TAKARO INDOOR BOWLS: Coaching available, 7.15pm for 7.30pm start, Takaro Sports Club cnr Botanical & Featherston St. Enquiries Marj 027 772 5864. WESTEND INDOOR BOWLING CLUB: Westend School Hall, 7.15pm for 7.30pm start. New members welcome. Tuition given. Enquiries Karen 353 0665. RUSSELL STREET INDOOR BOWLS: All abilities and ages welcome, Russell Street School, 7.15pm. Enquiries Raymonda, 357 5298/ Les 357 6281. WHAKARONGO INDOOR BOWLS: Whakarongo School Hall, 7.30pm. All ages welcome. Enquiries Shirley 356
2930/ Roger 353 3850. UNITY SINGERS CHOIR: 7.30pm, St Marys Church Hall, Ruahine St. Enquiries Helen 358 7069/ Sue 354 3295. RENAISSANCE SINGERS: Music from the 16th century to present day, 7.30pm to 9.30pm. Experienced singers are invited to contact musical director, Guy Donaldson firstname.lastname@example.org/ 357 5932. BADMINTON: B&M Centre, Pascal St, 7.30 – 9.30pm. First night free. Casual $10 per night, subs $120. Enquiries Steve, Palmerston North Badminton Club, 021 027 53825/ pnbc.org.nz
BE FREE: ‘‘Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life’’ workshop series, 9am – 1pm, Theosophical Centre, 304 Church St. Sponsorship available. $35 waged. Register Julie 027 233 9277/ email email@example.com. PLUNKET: Roslyn Under-1s Coffee Group, 177 Vogel St, 9.30 – 11am. Enquiries Leandra 021 808 340. MAINLY PLAY: Fun play with your preschool aged children. Morning tea and barista made coffee, St Oswald’s Hall, corner Kingswood and Featherston St, 10am. Gold coin koha. Enquiries Marg 027 406 6315. SELAH: Community cafe, Legacy Centre, cnr Highbury & Brentwood Ave. Good prices, enjoyable company, great cause – supporting Just Hope free community meal, 10am – 2pm.
PN RSA: Club night for members, partners and visitors, Distinction Hotel, Campbell St entrance, 4 – 7pm. Ode recited at 6pm. SPEED SKATING: MSSC Learn to Skate weekly classes run by NZ representative skaters and coaches. Skates available or BYO, 5.30 – 6.30pm, Bell Hall Arena 5, Waldegrave St. Enquiries Vikki Gibbs 358 9387. MANAWATU POTTERY SOCIETY: Create your own ceramic artworks, 5.30pm – 8.30pm, Feilding Railway Station, Aorangi St, Feilding. All welcome. Enquiries Shalome 021 157 3135/ John 323 6828/ Lucia 021 065 3667. TRAVELLING TO ITALY?: Beginners Italian classes, QEC, 6.30 – 8.30pm. Enquiries QEC/ Bev on 027 278 3120. TABLE TENNIS: Feilding Junior Table Tennis Club 6.30 – 8pm, Caledonian Hall, Weld St. Enquiries Matthew Ball 027 341 2246/ firstname.lastname@example.org CADETS: Feilding Cadet Unit for young men and women aged 13-18. Must enjoy the outdoors, adventure and personal development. Gain NCEA credits and meet new people, 6.30 – 9pm, Old Tote, Manfeild Park, South St. Enquiries Karen Browne 027 358 0064. MANAWA TUNES CHORUS: A capella, 4-part harmony singing, 7.15pm, NZ Red Cross Training Rooms, 245 Main St West. All men welcome. Enquiries Owen 354 1951/ Clive 323 4953. Facebook: Manawatunes Chorus. CARD EVENINGS: Whist Club meets fortnightly for social games, 7.30pm. New members and learners welcome. Enquiries Virginia 356 9153/ Yvonne 357 4796. SCOTTISH COUNTRY DANCING: For fun and fitness, no kilts required, Beginners welcome, Whakarongo Hall, cnr Stoney Creek Road and Napier Hwy, 7.30pm. Enquiries Joy 027 776 2397/ Mary 356 3416.
SMOKEFREE ROCKQUEST and Smokefree Pacifica Beats: Regional final, 12 local acts looking for a place in September’s national final, Regent on Broadway, 7pm, Friday July 1. Enquiries sfrq.nz WORLD ON STAGE: Manawatu Multicultural Council biennial production directed by Pat Snoxell. 20 ethnic groups, Regent on Broadway, 6.30pm, Saturday, July 2. Adults $20, seniors/ students/children $15, 2X2 $50. BRASS BAND CONCERT: Pre-national contest concert by Levin & Districts Brass Band, Salvation Army Worship & Community Centre, Durham St, Levin, Sunday July 3, 2pm. Gold coin koha. Enquiries Chris Craddock 027 410 2420. RED PUPPY BIKKIE DAY: Schools, clubs, daycares, workplaces and individuals are invited to Bake a Difference for guide dogs, Monday, July 4. Register bikkieday.org.nz MANAWATU PROPERTY INVESTOR Association: Steve Williams on Manawatu Commercial Real Estate, July 6, 7.30pm Bridge Club, Cook & Cuba St. Members free, visitors $20. Enquiries Pauline Beissel 027 471 9192. DANCE SCOTTISH: Ashhurst and Manawatu Scottish Country Dance Clubs combined evening, July 7, 7.30pm, Whakarongo Hall, Stoney Creek Rd/Napier Highway. Enquiries Gae Stephenson, 357 6564/ email@example.com BUZZ HOLIDAY PROGRAMME: Fun games, crafts & challenges for years 1 – 9, food provided, July 11 – 15 and 18 – 22, 8.30am – 5.30 pm, St Albans Presbyterian Church, 339 Albert St. Enquiries email: firstname.lastname@example.org/ 326 7305/ thebuzz.org.nz MANAWATU ART EXPO: Manawatu’s largest cash ‘n carry art exhibition. Guest artist Jacky Pearson from Wairarapa, Centennial Convention Centre, Main St, Friday July 15 – Sunday 17, 9am – 4:30pm. Adults $5, u-14 free. Enquiries Feilding & District Art Society 323 2323. TOY COLLECTORS FAIR: 11am – 2pm, Sunday, August 7, Community Leisure Centre, 569 Ferguson St, 11am – 2pm. Table bookings, Bernie 353 7475. RED WALK: Cure Kids 5km & 10km fun run/walk, Ashurst Domain and Manawatu River Walkway, August 28. Enquiries email@example.com
REFUGEE SUPPORT: Volunteers to provide practical support for newly arrived families settling in our community. Comprehensive training provided. Enquiries Ansie 351 0798/ 027 228 0036/ Ansiefirstname.lastname@example.org SEXUALITY OR GENDER questions: Contact MaLGRA (Manawatu Lesbian and Gay Rights Association Inc) for social, support groups, events and free information. Enquiries malgra.clubq.org.nz/ facebook groups MaLGRA.Club Q/ Secretary@malgraclubq.org.nz
Robyn Baker from Age Concern is working to raise awareness of how elderly people can counter prevalent forms of emotional, psychological and physical abuse.