El­der abuse never OK

The Tribune (NZ) - - NEWS - RICHARD MAYS

El­der abuse is the most silent form of abuse, ac­cord­ing to Age Con­cern’s Robyn Baker.

World El­der Abuse Aware­ness Week may end to­day, but the is­sue of phys­i­cal, emo­tional and psy­cho­log­i­cal abuse, es­pe­cially from fam­ily mem­bers, is a year-round prob­lem.

Robyn says her staff have no­ticed an in­crease in self-re­fer­rals by older peo­ple who feel threat­ened or taken ad­van­tage of. She says there is an in­creas­ing aware­ness about this among older folk.

While there are scams that tar­get the el­derly, much of the abuse is meted out by fam­ily mem­bers. A dif­fi­culty is that what hap­pens in fam­i­lies of­ten stays in fam­i­lies, and there are all kinds of sub­tle pres­sures fam­ily mem­bers can bring to bear, in­clud­ing ne­glect, grad­ual iso­la­tion, and by abus­ing as­sumed pow­ers of at­tor­ney.

‘‘No form of abuse is OK – es­pe­cially for our older adults.’’

Robyn says one of the best ways to pro­tect older, lonely and vul­ner­a­ble peo­ple is to have net­works.

‘‘The com­mu­nity is work­ing to­gether for our el­der ci­ti­zens. It’s not just one or­gan­i­sa­tion. Just as it takes a com­mu­nity to raise a child, it takes a com­mu­nity to look af­ter our el­derly.’’

The week has fo­cused at­ten­tion on the steps older peo­ple can take to pro­tect them­selves from abu­sive sit­u­a­tions. Palmer­ston North Se­nior Ci­ti­zens pres­i­dent Elsie Down­ing says she has come across a num­ber while de­liv­er­ing Meals on Wheels.

‘‘There was the son who sold his mother’s house out from over her head, and then gave her a week’s no­tice.’’

Elsie and oth­ers who work in the com­mu­nity are able to re­port sit­u­a­tions like that to Robyn or to so­cial ser­vice agen­cies.

She says the city’s Se­nior Ci­ti­zens Hall on Main St across from the Globe theatre also pro­vides some­where for peo­ple to find com­pany and friend­ship, the all-ages gold coin Tues­day af­ter­noon con­cert prov­ing par­tic­u­larly pop­u­lar.

TUES­DAY 28

TEN­NIS So­cial Dou­bles: Manawatu Lawn Ten­nis Club, Fitzher­bert Ave next to PNGHS, 9 – 11am fol­lowed by morn­ing tea. Mem­bers free, ca­sual $5. En­quiries Jenny 354 6271. MENZSHED MANAWATU: Com­mu­nity wood­work­ing work­shop mainly for older men. Work on your own project or a group com­mu­nity project, Man­gaone Park, Race­course Rd, 9am – 2pm. New mem­bers welcome. En­quiries David 357 4045. TAI CHI: Tues­days and Wed­nes­days, 9.15 – 10.15am, Chi­nese As­so­ci­a­tion Hall, 98 Napier Rd. Be­gin­ners and ex­pe­ri­enced welcome. En­quiries PN Tai Chi Club, 357 1377. DOODLEBUGS Play­group: Preschool chil­dren and their par­ents/ care­givers, 9.30am – 12noon yel­low gate, St David’s Church, op­po­site Memo­rial Park, Main St. In­side and out­side free play, morn­ing tea. MOE ap­proved. Koha/do­na­tion wel­comed. En­quiries Pam 358 1964. HOUSIE TUES­DAYS: 40 games, su­per house, keno, 10am, Ter­race End Bowl­ing Club, Sum­mer­hays St. All welcome, plenty of park­ing. En­quiries Jac­quie RSA Wel­fare Trust, 356 7673. MAINLY MU­SIC: Par­ents and preschool­ers mu­sic, danc­ing and fair-trade cof­fee, cor­ner Feather­ston and Kingswood St, 10am. Gold coin koha. En­quiries Mar­garet Barsanti 027 406 6315. PLUNKET: Cloth­ing Swap Shop 10 – 11.30am, Fam­ily Cen­tre, 42 Al­bert St. En­quiries Le­an­dra 021 808 340. MEET­ING POINT: Crafts, knit­ting, sewing, cro­chet­ing, paint­ing, bud­get cook­ing, tai chi, cards, morn­ing tea, St David’s Com­mu­nity Cen­tre, cnr Main and Rain­forth Sts (opp Memo­rial Park) 10am – 12noon. All welcome. Creche avail­able. Gold coin koha. En­quiries 358 3246. PASIFIKA OUT­REACH CLINIC: Free health clin­ics for Pasifika, Church on Vo­gel, 127 Vo­gel St, 10.30am – 4pm. En­quiries Fo­lale Fai 027 452 3615/ Aluisi Vu­dini­abola 027 274 8109/ Saane Ma’u 021 662 118. BREAST­FEED­ING SUP­PORT: Free Head Start Par­ent­ing Ses­sions – baby ba­sics, car seat safety, baby­wear­ing & den­tal hy­giene for you & your baby. Af­ter­noon tea pro­vided. Com­mu­nity Birth Ser­vices, West­side Cham­bers, 151 The Square. En­quiries 354 6455. IN­DOOR BOWLS: Three games and a cuppa, North­ern Bowl­ing Club, 1.15pm. En­quiries Be­van 354 7466. TUES­DAY CON­CERT: Come early for raf­fles. All ages welcome, 1.30pm, Se­nior Ci­ti­zens Hall, 309 Main St (op­po­site Globe Theatre), gold coin koha. En­quiries Elsie 358 0994 (evenings). CEN­TRAL CON­NEC­TIONS: A singing group for peo­ple with neu­ro­log­i­cal dis­abil­i­ties, 1.30 – 3pm, Cen­tral Bap­tist Church, Church St. En­quiries Ja­nine Dann, 06 324 7172/ 021 050 3593 GIRLS’ BRI­GADE: Af­ford­able ac­tiv­i­ties for girls in High­bury/Takaro & Hokowhitu 4.30 – 6pm. En­quiries Joanne 355 3124, girls­bri­gade.nz. SKAT­ING: MSSC Learn to Skate weekly classes with NZ rep­re­sen­ta­tive skaters and coaches. Skates avail­able or BYO, 4.45 – 5.30pm, Bell Hall, Arena 5, Walde­grave St. En­quiries Kylie Shirley 358 2301. MIND­FUL­NESS MED­I­TA­TION: Non-sec­tar­ian group med­i­ta­tion with Dr Dou­glas Osto (Ph D) 6 – 7 pm., Theo­soph­i­cal So­ci­ety 304 Church St. En­try $5, un­waged gold coin koha. En­quiries Anthea 353 6221/ pn@theos­o­phy.org.nz MARCH­ING: Fun, fit­ness, friend­ship for ex marchers want­ing to get back into march­ing, or any­one want­ing to try it out, 6 – 8pm. En­quiries Jennie 358 0585/ 027 3680 383, gnb­supremes@gmail.com MODEL RAIL­WAY Club: Pa­paioea Pl clu­b­rooms, 7pm. British OO gauge ex­hi­bi­tion lay­out to run stock on. New mem­bers welcome. En­quiries 354 1208/ 022 068 1821. CAN YOU SING?: Con­fi­dent singers wanted for all-women’s cho­rus. Fun, mu­sic and friend­ship with the Manawatu Over­tones, Mil­son Com­bined Church Hall, 7pm. En­quiries Jenni 356 8585 (A/H)/ Linda 358 5883. TAKARO IN­DOOR BOWLS: Coach­ing avail­able, 7.15pm for 7.30pm start, Takaro Sports Club cnr Botan­i­cal & Feather­ston St. En­quiries Marj 027 772 5864. WESTEND IN­DOOR BOWL­ING CLUB: Westend School Hall, 7.15pm for 7.30pm start. New mem­bers welcome. Tu­ition given. En­quiries Karen 353 0665. RUS­SELL STREET IN­DOOR BOWLS: All abil­i­ties and ages welcome, Rus­sell Street School, 7.15pm. En­quiries Ray­monda, 357 5298/ Les 357 6281. WHAKARONGO IN­DOOR BOWLS: Whakarongo School Hall, 7.30pm. All ages welcome. En­quiries Shirley 356

2930/ Roger 353 3850. UNITY SINGERS CHOIR: 7.30pm, St Marys Church Hall, Ruahine St. En­quiries He­len 358 7069/ Sue 354 3295. RE­NAIS­SANCE SINGERS: Mu­sic from the 16th cen­tury to present day, 7.30pm to 9.30pm. Ex­pe­ri­enced singers are in­vited to con­tact mu­si­cal di­rec­tor, Guy Don­ald­son guyju­dith@clear.net.nz/ 357 5932. BAD­MINTON: B&M Cen­tre, Pas­cal St, 7.30 – 9.30pm. First night free. Ca­sual $10 per night, subs $120. En­quiries Steve, Palmer­ston North Bad­minton Club, 021 027 53825/ pnbc.org.nz

WED­NES­DAY 29

BE FREE: ‘‘Change Your Think­ing, Change Your Life’’ work­shop se­ries, 9am – 1pm, Theo­soph­i­cal Cen­tre, 304 Church St. Spon­sor­ship avail­able. $35 waged. Reg­is­ter Julie 027 233 9277/ email be­freepn@gmail.com. PLUNKET: Roslyn Un­der-1s Cof­fee Group, 177 Vo­gel St, 9.30 – 11am. En­quiries Le­an­dra 021 808 340. MAINLY PLAY: Fun play with your preschool aged chil­dren. Morn­ing tea and barista made cof­fee, St Oswald’s Hall, cor­ner Kingswood and Feather­ston St, 10am. Gold coin koha. En­quiries Marg 027 406 6315. SE­LAH: Com­mu­nity cafe, Legacy Cen­tre, cnr High­bury & Brent­wood Ave. Good prices, en­joy­able com­pany, great cause – sup­port­ing Just Hope free com­mu­nity meal, 10am – 2pm.

WED­NES­DAY 29

PN RSA: Club night for mem­bers, part­ners and vis­i­tors, Distinc­tion Ho­tel, Camp­bell St en­trance, 4 – 7pm. Ode re­cited at 6pm. SPEED SKAT­ING: MSSC Learn to Skate weekly classes run by NZ rep­re­sen­ta­tive skaters and coaches. Skates avail­able or BYO, 5.30 – 6.30pm, Bell Hall Arena 5, Walde­grave St. En­quiries Vikki Gibbs 358 9387. MANAWATU POT­TERY SO­CI­ETY: Cre­ate your own ce­ramic art­works, 5.30pm – 8.30pm, Feilding Rail­way Sta­tion, Ao­rangi St, Feilding. All welcome. En­quiries Shalome 021 157 3135/ John 323 6828/ Lu­cia 021 065 3667. TRAV­EL­LING TO ITALY?: Be­gin­ners Ital­ian classes, QEC, 6.30 – 8.30pm. En­quiries QEC/ Bev on 027 278 3120. TA­BLE TEN­NIS: Feilding Ju­nior Ta­ble Ten­nis Club 6.30 – 8pm, Cale­do­nian Hall, Weld St. En­quiries Matthew Ball 027 341 2246/ mattb.tableten­nis@gmail.com CADETS: Feilding Cadet Unit for young men and women aged 13-18. Must en­joy the out­doors, ad­ven­ture and per­sonal devel­op­ment. Gain NCEA cred­its and meet new peo­ple, 6.30 – 9pm, Old Tote, Man­feild Park, South St. En­quiries Karen Browne 027 358 0064. MANAWA TUNES CHO­RUS: A capella, 4-part har­mony singing, 7.15pm, NZ Red Cross Train­ing Rooms, 245 Main St West. All men welcome. En­quiries Owen 354 1951/ Clive 323 4953. Face­book: Manawatunes Cho­rus. CARD EVENINGS: Whist Club meets fort­nightly for so­cial games, 7.30pm. New mem­bers and learn­ers welcome. En­quiries Vir­ginia 356 9153/ Yvonne 357 4796. SCOT­TISH COUN­TRY DANC­ING: For fun and fit­ness, no kilts re­quired, Be­gin­ners welcome, Whakarongo Hall, cnr Stoney Creek Road and Napier Hwy, 7.30pm. En­quiries Joy 027 776 2397/ Mary 356 3416.

COM­ING UP

SMOKEFREE ROCKQUEST and Smokefree Paci­fica Beats: Re­gional fi­nal, 12 lo­cal acts look­ing for a place in Septem­ber’s na­tional fi­nal, Re­gent on Broad­way, 7pm, Fri­day July 1. En­quiries sfrq.nz WORLD ON STAGE: Manawatu Mul­ti­cul­tural Coun­cil bi­en­nial pro­duc­tion di­rected by Pat Snox­ell. 20 eth­nic groups, Re­gent on Broad­way, 6.30pm, Satur­day, July 2. Adults $20, se­niors/ stu­dents/chil­dren $15, 2X2 $50. BRASS BAND CON­CERT: Pre-na­tional con­test con­cert by Levin & Dis­tricts Brass Band, Sal­va­tion Army Wor­ship & Com­mu­nity Cen­tre, Durham St, Levin, Sun­day July 3, 2pm. Gold coin koha. En­quiries Chris Crad­dock 027 410 2420. RED PUPPY BIKKIE DAY: Schools, clubs, day­cares, work­places and in­di­vid­u­als are in­vited to Bake a Dif­fer­ence for guide dogs, Mon­day, July 4. Reg­is­ter bikkie­day.org.nz MANAWATU PROP­ERTY IN­VESTOR As­so­ci­a­tion: Steve Wil­liams on Manawatu Com­mer­cial Real Es­tate, July 6, 7.30pm Bridge Club, Cook & Cuba St. Mem­bers free, vis­i­tors $20. En­quiries Pauline Beis­sel 027 471 9192. DANCE SCOT­TISH: Ash­hurst and Manawatu Scot­tish Coun­try Dance Clubs com­bined even­ing, July 7, 7.30pm, Whakarongo Hall, Stoney Creek Rd/Napier High­way. En­quiries Gae Stephen­son, 357 6564/ wags@clear.net.nz BUZZ HOL­I­DAY PRO­GRAMME: Fun games, crafts & chal­lenges for years 1 – 9, food pro­vided, July 11 – 15 and 18 – 22, 8.30am – 5.30 pm, St Al­bans Pres­by­te­rian Church, 339 Al­bert St. En­quiries email: the­buzz@stal­bans.org.nz/ 326 7305/ the­buzz.org.nz MANAWATU ART EXPO: Manawatu’s largest cash ‘n carry art ex­hi­bi­tion. Guest artist Jacky Pear­son from Wairarapa, Cen­ten­nial Con­ven­tion Cen­tre, Main St, Fri­day July 15 – Sun­day 17, 9am – 4:30pm. Adults $5, u-14 free. En­quiries Feilding & District Art So­ci­ety 323 2323. TOY COL­LEC­TORS FAIR: 11am – 2pm, Sun­day, Au­gust 7, Com­mu­nity Leisure Cen­tre, 569 Fer­gu­son St, 11am – 2pm. Ta­ble book­ings, Bernie 353 7475. RED WALK: Cure Kids 5km & 10km fun run/walk, Ashurst Do­main and Manawatu River Walk­way, Au­gust 28. En­quiries lau­rel.rnffd@gmail.com

GEN­ERAL

REFUGEE SUP­PORT: Vol­un­teers to pro­vide prac­ti­cal sup­port for newly ar­rived fam­i­lies set­tling in our com­mu­nity. Com­pre­hen­sive train­ing pro­vided. En­quiries An­sie 351 0798/ 027 228 0036/ An­sie-jansen.vu­uren@red­cross.org.nz SEX­U­AL­ITY OR GEN­DER ques­tions: Con­tact MaLGRA (Manawatu Les­bian and Gay Rights As­so­ci­a­tion Inc) for so­cial, sup­port groups, events and free in­for­ma­tion. En­quiries malgra.clubq.org.nz/ face­book groups MaLGRA.Club Q/ Sec­re­tary@mal­gr­a­clubq.org.nz

PHOTO: WAR­WICK SMITH/FAIR­FAX NZ

Robyn Baker from Age Con­cern is work­ing to raise aware­ness of how el­derly peo­ple can counter preva­lent forms of emo­tional, psy­cho­log­i­cal and phys­i­cal abuse.

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