GROOM & BEST MAN DU­TIES

Wedding Destinations - - DRESSING THE GROOM -

A groom may be tempted to be­lieve that his du­ties and those of his best man are quite sim­ple. Groom - show up on time. Best man - don’t lose the rings. While th­ese are im­por­tant con­tri­bu­tions to any wed­ding, both men ac­tu­ally have quite a list of du­ties.

The groom will

Help choose the venue and how many guests will be at­tend­ing. ◊ De­pend­ing on how for­mal the wed­ding is to be, se­lect his best man, grooms­men and ush­ers and ar­range their at­tire. ◊ Ar­range ac­com­mo­da­tion for out of town guests. ◊ Re­quest the peo­ple who will be mak­ing speeches in ad­vance and pro­vide them with a time limit to speak. ◊ If writ­ing his own vows, make sure th­ese are writ­ten and re­hearsed be­fore­hand. The same goes for the groom’s speech - this should be writ­ten and re­hearsed well be­fore the wed­ding. ◊ Pro­vide a list of the days sched­ule to the master of cer­e­monies. ◊ With his fi­ancée choose the wed­ding en­ter­tain­ment. ◊ Ar­range the mar­riage li­cense and trans­port from the cer­e­mony to the re­cep­tion where the lo­ca­tions are not in one place. ◊ Ar­range the fee or do­na­tion for the cer­e­mony of­fi­ciant and any singers or mu­si­cians. ◊ As­sist with the or­gan­i­sa­tion of a pho­tog­ra­pher and suit­able lo­ca­tion for pho­tos. ◊ Or­gan­ise a DJ or band. ◊ Have spare cash avail­able for any un­fore­seen in­ci­den­tals. ◊ Ar­range for a “go-to” per­son who on the day of the wed­ding can deal with any­thing that goes wrong. ◊ Make toasts and re­spond to toasts by oth­ers. ◊ Need his best man for mo­ral sup­port and to en­sure the wed­ding runs smoothly. ◊ Se­lect a gift for his bride and thank you gifts for the wed­ding party. ◊ En­sure guests are taken care of upon ar­rival at the re­cep­tion.

The best man will

◊ Dis­cuss the wed­ding plans early with the bride and groom. ◊ Es­tab­lish a work­ing re­la­tion­ship with the maid or ma­tron of hon­our, He will be re­spon­si­ble for the wed­ding ush­ers and grooms­men. ◊ Help the groom choose at­tire for his wed­ding party and -or­gan­ise grooms­men’s fit­tings if nec­es­sary. ◊ En­sure that the at­tire for the wed­ding is de­liv­ered on time on the wed­ding day. ◊ En­sure that wed­ding pro­grams/or­ders of ser­vice are de­liv­ered. ◊ Take charge of the wed­ding rings - and do not lose them. ◊ Make a list of peo­ple who have spe­cial seat­ing ar­range­ments so that the ush­ers are aware of where to seat them. ◊ Be fa­mil­iar with all roles and places so he can help oth­ers if there is any con­fu­sion. ◊ Work on and fi­nalise his speech well be­fore the big day. ◊ Be ready early on the wed­ding day to help the groom pre­pare and will en­sure the groom is on time for the cer­e­mony. ◊ Help the pho­tog­ra­pher ar­range the wed­ding party for pho­to­graphs. ◊ Fill the role of MC if one has not been hired or re­quested. He will an­nounce the speeches, cut­ting of the cake, the first dance and the cou­ple’s de­par­ture. ◊ Make a speech, remembering to com­pli­ment the brides­maids, and re­lay mes­sages from those un­able to at­tend. ◊ Ar­range the trans­port for the cou­ple’s de­par­ture from the re­cep­tion. If they are trav­el­ling by car, then ar­range taste­ful dec­o­ra­tion.

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