GROOM & BEST MAN DUTIES
A groom may be tempted to believe that his duties and those of his best man are quite simple. Groom - show up on time. Best man - don’t lose the rings. While these are important contributions to any wedding, both men actually have quite a list of duties.
The groom will
Help choose the venue and how many guests will be attending. ◊ Depending on how formal the wedding is to be, select his best man, groomsmen and ushers and arrange their attire. ◊ Arrange accommodation for out of town guests. ◊ Request the people who will be making speeches in advance and provide them with a time limit to speak. ◊ If writing his own vows, make sure these are written and rehearsed beforehand. The same goes for the groom’s speech - this should be written and rehearsed well before the wedding. ◊ Provide a list of the days schedule to the master of ceremonies. ◊ With his fiancée choose the wedding entertainment. ◊ Arrange the marriage license and transport from the ceremony to the reception where the locations are not in one place. ◊ Arrange the fee or donation for the ceremony officiant and any singers or musicians. ◊ Assist with the organisation of a photographer and suitable location for photos. ◊ Organise a DJ or band. ◊ Have spare cash available for any unforeseen incidentals. ◊ Arrange for a “go-to” person who on the day of the wedding can deal with anything that goes wrong. ◊ Make toasts and respond to toasts by others. ◊ Need his best man for moral support and to ensure the wedding runs smoothly. ◊ Select a gift for his bride and thank you gifts for the wedding party. ◊ Ensure guests are taken care of upon arrival at the reception.
The best man will
◊ Discuss the wedding plans early with the bride and groom. ◊ Establish a working relationship with the maid or matron of honour, He will be responsible for the wedding ushers and groomsmen. ◊ Help the groom choose attire for his wedding party and -organise groomsmen’s fittings if necessary. ◊ Ensure that the attire for the wedding is delivered on time on the wedding day. ◊ Ensure that wedding programs/orders of service are delivered. ◊ Take charge of the wedding rings - and do not lose them. ◊ Make a list of people who have special seating arrangements so that the ushers are aware of where to seat them. ◊ Be familiar with all roles and places so he can help others if there is any confusion. ◊ Work on and finalise his speech well before the big day. ◊ Be ready early on the wedding day to help the groom prepare and will ensure the groom is on time for the ceremony. ◊ Help the photographer arrange the wedding party for photographs. ◊ Fill the role of MC if one has not been hired or requested. He will announce the speeches, cutting of the cake, the first dance and the couple’s departure. ◊ Make a speech, remembering to compliment the bridesmaids, and relay messages from those unable to attend. ◊ Arrange the transport for the couple’s departure from the reception. If they are travelling by car, then arrange tasteful decoration.