Get your advice from fast-talking media star Polly Gillespie
Q We have farm dogs that don’t come near the house. But my son and daughter-in-law have a mid-sized dog that they treat like a human. It lives inside and so the same thing happens at my place when they come to stay. They even let it go in the swimming pool. I was aghast but didn’t say anything. Now they’re getting another dog of the same breed. I don’t know what to do or say because I don’t want to upset them, but I simply can’t have another dog running around inside my house.
Barking Mad, Mangawhai A When you have childdogs, part of the brain seems to fog over. People with “chogs” don’t seem to understand that everyone has different levels of canine acceptance. I’m not sure what the answer is for you. Because you’re in the dubious position of having dogs yourselves and their first dog has already been invited into your home, you’ve sent the message that smaller dogs and puppies are welcome – you’ve made a bit of a trap for yourself. If their doggy mates were strictly farm dogs too, you’d have licence to order the pooches out into the cold, but your rules are very murky. Seems to me your only solution is to tell them where you stand.