WHY ZAC WASN’T FOR ME

Her pri­vate chats drove him away

Woman’s Day (NZ) - - Cover Storyt -

The prom­ise of true love was snatched away from her in the show’s emo­tional fi­nale, but jilted Lily McManus isn’t seek­ing any an­swers, telling Wo­man’s

Day she al­ways knew her bru­tal hon­esty would push Zac away in the end.

“I was at the point where I was like, ‘I re­ally like you and I’m will­ing to give this a proper go in the real world, but I can’t prom­ise you it’s al­ways go­ing to work,’” says the 20-year-old Bach­e­lorette, who was born and raised on Aus­tralia’s Gold Coast.

“I was con­stantly say­ing that to him – it was just never shown on the show – and I don’t think he could han­dle that kind of re­al­is­tic neg­a­tiv­ity. He wanted re­as­sur­ance, which I could never give, so tak­ing a chance on me would mean tak­ing a risk.”

It was a gam­ble the Bach­e­lor wasn’t will­ing to take, but Lily says deep down, she knew she could never be Zac’s girl­friend.

“I al­ways took him to be the kind of dude that would be with some­one like Viarni. I hate this safe-op­tion bulls*** be­cause it doesn’t mean she’s safe, but Zac needed some­one a lit­tle more set­tled and a bit more sure of what she’s do­ing – some­one who could chill at home with him and could eas­ily keep do­ing their lives to­gether.

“That’s not me and I’m not sure I would be happy with that. As much as we liked each other and as much as we got on, we wanted dif­fer­ent things out of a re­la­tion­ship.”

Lily and Zac’s dif­fer­ences be­came even more ap­par­ent when he dumped the Three show’s wild child be­cause he didn’t “want to cage a but­ter­fly”. Re­spond­ing to Zac’s words, Lily asks, “What kind of f***ing stupid metaphor is that? I want some­one who can sup­port me, so we can grow to­gether. What did he think he was go­ing to do with me? It just showed it prob­a­bly wouldn’t have worked and gave me a bit of an in­sight as to how he treats re­la­tion­ships.”

How­ever, Lily – who re­cently moved from Welling­ton to Auck­land to live with fel­low Bach­e­lorette Han­nah How­ley – won’t deny the break-up still hurt. She confesses, “I cared a lot about the guy. No mat­ter whether he was a lover or a friend to me, it’s still los­ing some­one I got along with so well. I felt s*** when I got home and when I’m sad, I feel very empty – no sad­ness, no hap­pi­ness, noth­ing.”

Putting on a brave smile, she con­cludes, “I’m over it now, but I know Zac and I can’t be friends any more. I’m al­ways go­ing to con­sider him my mate, but we aren’t go­ing to do mate things out of re­spect to Viarni. We aren’t go­ing to hang out and we don’t need to hang out. Zac and I don’t give each other pur­pose any more.”

De­spite the hurt, run­ner-up Lily is “over it now” and re­signed to the fact she and Zac can never be friends.

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