WHY ZAC WASN’T FOR ME
Her private chats drove him away
The promise of true love was snatched away from her in the show’s emotional finale, but jilted Lily McManus isn’t seeking any answers, telling Woman’s
Day she always knew her brutal honesty would push Zac away in the end.
“I was at the point where I was like, ‘I really like you and I’m willing to give this a proper go in the real world, but I can’t promise you it’s always going to work,’” says the 20-year-old Bachelorette, who was born and raised on Australia’s Gold Coast.
“I was constantly saying that to him – it was just never shown on the show – and I don’t think he could handle that kind of realistic negativity. He wanted reassurance, which I could never give, so taking a chance on me would mean taking a risk.”
It was a gamble the Bachelor wasn’t willing to take, but Lily says deep down, she knew she could never be Zac’s girlfriend.
“I always took him to be the kind of dude that would be with someone like Viarni. I hate this safe-option bulls*** because it doesn’t mean she’s safe, but Zac needed someone a little more settled and a bit more sure of what she’s doing – someone who could chill at home with him and could easily keep doing their lives together.
“That’s not me and I’m not sure I would be happy with that. As much as we liked each other and as much as we got on, we wanted different things out of a relationship.”
Lily and Zac’s differences became even more apparent when he dumped the Three show’s wild child because he didn’t “want to cage a butterfly”. Responding to Zac’s words, Lily asks, “What kind of f***ing stupid metaphor is that? I want someone who can support me, so we can grow together. What did he think he was going to do with me? It just showed it probably wouldn’t have worked and gave me a bit of an insight as to how he treats relationships.”
However, Lily – who recently moved from Wellington to Auckland to live with fellow Bachelorette Hannah Howley – won’t deny the break-up still hurt. She confesses, “I cared a lot about the guy. No matter whether he was a lover or a friend to me, it’s still losing someone I got along with so well. I felt s*** when I got home and when I’m sad, I feel very empty – no sadness, no happiness, nothing.”
Putting on a brave smile, she concludes, “I’m over it now, but I know Zac and I can’t be friends any more. I’m always going to consider him my mate, but we aren’t going to do mate things out of respect to Viarni. We aren’t going to hang out and we don’t need to hang out. Zac and I don’t give each other purpose any more.”
Despite the hurt, runner-up Lily is “over it now” and resigned to the fact she and Zac can never be friends.