ASK POLLY

Get advice from fast-talk­ing Rova and More FM star Polly Gille­spie

Woman’s Day (NZ) - - Advice -

QWe’re

try­ing to plan our sum­mer hol­i­day, but we have reached an im­passe. I want to rent a bach with an­other fam­ily, but my hus­band just wants to have time to fish with no so­cial­is­ing at all. How can I make him see sense that we’ll have more fun with other peo­ple around us?

Fun Fac­tor, Waikato

A

That’s tough. I hon­estly would gen­er­ally loathe go­ing away with an­other cou­ple on hol­i­day. I’m try­ing to find a way to be in your corner, but se­ri­ously, I’d save my “share hol­i­days” for girls’ week­ends or some­thing you en­joy do­ing with other peo­ple. For some of us, the thought of a cou­ples’ hol­i­day is a horror story!

Q

My friend at work is hav­ing an af­fair with a mar­ried man. She’s al­ways ask­ing me to cover for her when she dashes off to meet him. I don’t want to do it any more, but am won­der­ing how I can tell her with­out it mak­ing things awk­ward be­tween us. What do you rec­om­mend?

Tricky Trysts, via email

A

Just tell her you to­tally don’t judge her at all, but your own freak­out-a-me­ter is off the Richter. Ex­plain that what she does is to­tally up to her, and she’s your friend and you love her, but ex­plain you’re not com­fort­able – in fact, you have anx­i­ety over hav­ing to cover for her. If she doesn’t un­der­stand that, then she’s a self­ish witch!

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