Get advice from fast-talking Rova and More FM star Polly Gillespie
trying to plan our summer holiday, but we have reached an impasse. I want to rent a bach with another family, but my husband just wants to have time to fish with no socialising at all. How can I make him see sense that we’ll have more fun with other people around us?
Fun Factor, Waikato
That’s tough. I honestly would generally loathe going away with another couple on holiday. I’m trying to find a way to be in your corner, but seriously, I’d save my “share holidays” for girls’ weekends or something you enjoy doing with other people. For some of us, the thought of a couples’ holiday is a horror story!
My friend at work is having an affair with a married man. She’s always asking me to cover for her when she dashes off to meet him. I don’t want to do it any more, but am wondering how I can tell her without it making things awkward between us. What do you recommend?
Tricky Trysts, via email
Just tell her you totally don’t judge her at all, but your own freakout-a-meter is off the Richter. Explain that what she does is totally up to her, and she’s your friend and you love her, but explain you’re not comfortable – in fact, you have anxiety over having to cover for her. If she doesn’t understand that, then she’s a selfish witch!