Get advice from fast-talking Rova and More FM star Polly Gillespie
QMy d daughter h h has just j got her first boyfriend, which is my husband’s worst nightmare. She’s 16 and I think he’s a nice boy, so I don’t mind them being together. But my husband hates the idea, so he keeps stopping her from seeing the guy. I don’t want to go against him and his rules, but I think it’s unfair on her. Whose side should I be on?
Cool Mum, Tauranga
AYikes,girl! Your husband is being a little 1878 here. You need to talk to him before you do anything else. Sit him down and explain that at 16, if she has been brought up well, and there is honest and open conversation, you guys should trust her. Sure, sleepovers may not be at all cool, but she’s 16 and even kids from strict religious families are allowed on dates at that age. But this conversation should take place just with your husband – not in front of your daughter. Be fair, firm and persuasive.
QI’m a single mum and when my daughter was younger, I spent so much time with her that I had absolutely no social life. Now she’s h ’ moved d out and d I don’t know what to do with myself. I haven’t kept in touch with any friends, and I don’t really go out and do anything. How do I get my life back on track and start socialising again?
Lonely, via email
AWell,I know it sounds like a stock-standard answer, but it’s about things like classes you’ve always wanted to take – or ones you’ve never wanted to take. It’s about doing the gym-class thing or the Thai-cooking-class thing. My friend has just started sewing at 40 – as in, she was not a sewer and she has now astounded me with the really cool clothes she has made. Not like me on an old Singer with a Very Easy Vogue pattern in 1988, but really cool stuff. But most importantly, she’s made amazing friends in the process. Get out there, girl!