“Some girls end up packing into the boys’ rooms and becoming roommates. I know of a girl who lived in the same room with her boyfriend from her first year until she graduated. Only God knows how many abortions she must have had,” he said.
Mrs. Ezeugwuh Gift said she was shocked the first time she visited her daughter in school and saw where she was residing and had to quickly withdraw her from the hostel.
“Why would they allow boys and girls to live together in the same hostel? Thank God I visited her the time I did. Who knows what could have happened if I had gone only in her final year,” she said.
A civil rights activist, David Omame, however, justified the male-female cohabitation. He argued that someone who has attained a certain age could be assumed to be mature and as such would be able to demonstrate some level of self control.
He said allowing boys to stay together with their female counterparts was one sure way of building morals, adding that it helped both the boys and girls to be conscious of the opposite sex.
According to him, it became particularly necessary these days of gay marriage and homosexuality which many students were falling victims to.
“I will rather allow my male child to cohabit with his female friend than to allow him live with his fellow male and risk having a homosexual as a child in the long run,” he added.
In her reaction, the Anambra State Commissioner for Social Welfare, Children’s and Women’s Affairs, Dr. Mrs Victoria Chikwelu, described such cohabitation as false marriage, which she said, is now trending in institutions of higher learning.
Speaking during the August meeting of the Catholic Women’s Organisation (CWO), Saint Paul’s Parish, Abba, Anambra State, Chikwelu, expressed worry over the trend, insisting that such cohabitation is totally unacceptable.
Chikwelu, whose message was delivered by the chairperson, Abba Town Union, Women’s Wing, Mrs Louisa Obiorah, alerted parents on the danger of the unhealthy arrangement, linking the many cases of broken marriages to it.
“A young girl who jumped early into pre-marital activities with its attendant social and psychological challenges, cannot withstand true marriage,” she stated.
She asked mothers to get closer to their children, especially the girls, so as to know when they derailed, even as she called for a better grooming of the girls to turn out good wives and mothers.