HAJIYA BINTA SHEHU BAMALLI // always good for you to plant good so that you can reap well. People will hurt you, life will be tough on you, things are going to be very difficult, but one thing is certain - time will take care of it all. Aspirations growing up It has really changed. I have always been someone who just wanted to enjoy life and I always lived my life that way. Secondly, I always aspired to work in an office. I started studying Medicine in the university before switching to Microbiology. I just knew I wasn’t interested in it. I wanted to work in an office and not the lab. So I did a postgraduate diploma in Business Administration, then an MBA. Joys of motherhood It can’t just be explained. There’s a whole human life that depends on me. It always baffles me how you don’t even see when they grow. It’s just like magic. It melts my heart. Fond childhood memories What I miss the most is spending time with my dad. People always asked about the rest of my siblings when my dad and I were doing our father-daughter thing. And honestly,we were too busy with ourselves that they didn’t really matter. There was a time my younger brother asked my dad why he loved only me. And he said it’s not that he loved only me, but “when she came, she was my first love before you all came along, and other family responsibilities as well.’’ I also miss situations when we would trick my mum and make her furious while we were busy laughing. How you met your husband I met my husband in his office. I went to the office complex looking for the office of the director of procurement. I was given the wrong directions and I ended up in the office of the director, PSR. I stated my mission and he took my card. We got talking and one thing led to another. And the rest is history.
Most cherished attribute of your husband
His tolerance and understanding. Above all, he is very kind. Advice for couples Communication is key in building a family. Couples should be openminded. A lot of us, both men and women, assume that our spouses already know what we want, or that he/she is supposed to know what you mean. How is that possible? Both parties need to learn the art of communication. Apologising isn’t a big deal for my husband. I notice that there are a lot of men who can’t apologise, even when they know they are at fault. Best travel destination For peace and calmness, I will say Saudi Arabia. You can do your worshipping and get a different feeling when you are there. It gives you a sense of belonging as a human being. How you relax My house is my favourite place in the world. When I go out I miss it and I’m eager to go back. I find all the love and the fun at home. It’s my safe haven.
Last good book you read and how it has impacted on you
There’s a book titled, A Gift for a Muslim Bride. I didn’t read it when I got married; I stumbled on it later on. It’s a book that gives you practical examples on how to live your life peacefully with your husband and in-laws. Some people may not have any problem with their husbands, but in-laws. I’ve recommended it to many people and even given it to people I knew were getting married. It has most of the values I hold dear and gives me confidence. It tells you that you are on the right path, and how to enjoy your life to the fullest. Favourite food Fresh Okro and any swallow. For drinks, I like pineapple juice. Definition of style I’m not really a fashion person. As long as I’m comfortable, I’m good. And if I’m at home, I love to wear anything free. Favourite bag and perfume I love Calvin Klein bags, probably because of my husband. He buys things better than I do. Lately, for perfume, I’ve been doing Roberto Cavalli, Carolina Herrera and Tom Ford’s oud. Mum’s advice that stuck with you over the years She always cautioned me on my laziness. I didn’t wash dishes, I didn’t cook; I didn’t do anything in the house. So she used to tell me that if I continued like that, by the time I would get married, she would come and see the person that would be taking care of my house. At the end of the day, when it happened I didn’t know what to do. My cooking wasn’t very fabulous. So I tried to scale up; and that’s when I had to try very hard to learn how to cook and houseclean. After I became an adult I began to appreciate all she did for me. I was angry about it but now I’m happy she did. Favourite sport, weather, car and colour While I was in secondary school, I played volleyball and high jump. I even competed in a competition for my school in Kaduna. But after that I didn’t have passion for sports. I love cool weather. For cars, I like Honda. It’s easy to maintain and economical. I love purple because it looks very beautiful on me. It brings out more of my beauty and makes me look stunning. Favourite day of the week Any day of the week, as long as I am at home and my husband is around. Beauty routine I don’t have any. I just take my bath, use baby oil and that’s it. Role models My parents are my role models because they shaped my life. I emulate the things they did. It will stick with me to the end.
back, what would you tell a younger you?
woLooking mI would tell her to listen more to her mother. Yes, she may be overbearing and you will think she is being too hard, but there are certain things I would have learnt better and earlier if I were more open. She went to the university after she had me, so I grew up with my dad. By the time she was done and came back, I was already used to a particular person - my dad. So, listen to your parents when they are teaching you some things. It may seem hard, but they are doing the right thing. Most cherished gift from your husband He does everything I want. There’s hardly anything I want that he doesn’t do. It gets me emotional, such that sometimes I sit and cry because it’s not everyone that is lucky enough to have a man that treats you that way. He also listens to me when I talk to him. He is always open-minded and accepts suggestions. But there’s no sacrifice too big for him to make for me. It’s very important to me. Favourite music I used to do music when I was in the university, but not anymore. First/last app you check everyday WhatsApp, because of family groups. We talk a lot there. So if there’s something we are missing out on, we catch up there; most especially before I go to bed, just to make sure everyone is okay.
Advice to younger women who aspire to be like you
Keep it simple and be focused. Know what you want and stick to it. But most importantly, for you to be anywhere in life, you need a support system. It may be your family, friends, whoever. Find out who they are and lean on them to make life better and easier for you.
The International Olympic Committee has appointed the Elegushi of Ikate land, Oba Saheed Ademola Elegushi as one of the patrons of as part of the Nigerian Olympic Committee. The Royal Highness was given this honour due to his contributions in sports since he became Oba.
Oba Saheed Elegushi expressed how honoured he was by the appointment as promised to use his new role to further promote fair international sportsmanship and unity.
An investiture ceremony took place at Ikate, the kingdom which the Oba is ruling and was attended by a caliber of personalities such as football stars Joseph Yobo, Kanu Nwankwo and Samson Siasia, awardwinning paralympians Bose Omolayo and Kehinde Paul.
Also present were Senator Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu, former Governor of Lagos State and National Leader of the All Progressives Congress, APC, HRH, Oba Abdulrasheed Akanbi, the Oluwo of Iwo (Telu 1), Chief (Mrs), Kofoworola Nwokedi, and the former governor of Delta state, Dr Emmanuel Eweta Udughan.
Nothing less than 27 Nigerians have made it to one of Britain’s most powerful and influential list, the Powerlist. The annual publication aims to provide a publication dedicated to people of African and Caribbean decent who have made positive impact and play influential roles in the United Kingdom and around the world. Apart from media mogul Mo Abudu and actor John Boyega, others who made the list include boxer Anthony Joshua and Meghan Markle. Mo Abudu shared the news where she said, “The Powerlist is the most authoritative recognition of Black influence in the U.K. Therefore, I am honoured and humbled to be included. It’s nice to know that those of us who return home to make our contributions are not being overlooked.”
COMMUNICATION IS KEY IN BUILDING A FAMILY. COUPLES SHOULD BE OPEN-MINDED.
The family of the Alaafin of Oyo, LamidiAdeyemi III continues to grow as he and his with Queen Anu, welcomed another set of twins, a boy and a girl after welcoming two other sets of twins earlier this year in February. The Queen shared the exciting news on her Instagram page where she said, “I can’t contain this happiness. Thank you Lord for your faithfulness. Welcome my Prince and Princess. Wonderful bundles of joy, I still can’t believe that I’m now a mother.
Thank you Lord for this blessings. I pray that may the peace of God dwell with us.”
Congratulations to them!