De­ci­sion: Money Or Love!? Ba­sics On UNO World Hap­pi­ness Day And Hu­man Lives

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Daily Messenger - - National -

Ar­gu­ments fa­vor­ing money over love are ar­tic­u­late enough, though not nec­es­sar­ily lit­er­ally in hu­man ter­mi­nol­ogy. Opin­ions do dif­fer and it's in­ter­est­ing to an­a­lyze main so­cio-eco­nomic trends and think­ing in this re­spect. Let us view just that.

Why can't you love money? So the rea­son goes: You peo­ple are silly. Can we re­ally com­pare the two? Love is with­out any price tag, un­con­di­tional and not very hard to get! You get that from your par­ents at birth. Your rel­a­tives give it to you, your teach­ers usu­ally have a lit­tle for you. I mean come on now. Look at all the love around the world these days. Most of it is usu­ally fake. (It's for­got­ten that love of money made most re­la­tions fake and un­true!). And all the self­ies and nar­cis­sis­tic posts we see, peo­ple have too much love for them­selves! They are selfish self wor­shipers, un­car­ing and with­out feel­ings for other hu­man be­ings.

Money is con­di­tional, it is not free, you ac­tu­ally have to go out and get it, oth­ers con­tend, claim­ing "un­less you are one of those bums get­ting free money from the govern­ment" in job­less and wel­fare crumbs, and that too if you hap­pen to be in US and Europe etc. Be­sides money, af­ter hard work and some good pay, if you still don't have enough love, you can go buy it! The more money you make the bet­ter love you can get. Thus money is not only greater than love, but is a lot harder to get these days. It's also said: You can't build up an em­pire on love. Love is an un­re­al­is­tic emo­tion that is the cause of a chem­i­cal re­ac­tion in­side our brains that stim­u­lates us. In a way it is a drug, it is al­most use­less in to­day's world and only acts to keep two peo­ple to­gether. Love is just an un­re­al­is­tic emo­tion that has been ro­man­ti­cized in to­day's cul­ture. We can have peo­ple who can not feel any­thing but can we live with­out money? No, of course not, money builds em­pires and economies, it is the fuel of the world. Love is only a bar­rier that has pre­vented hu­mans from op­er­at­ing with­out bias since the dawn of time, and it should be some­thing that should be elim­i­nated.

It's of­ten claimed that if a guy has enough money, he can get pretty much any woman he wants. Just by pay­ing for things she asks for. If you are a woman and not very at­trac­tive, you can just buy plas­tic surgery. From what is seen, men and women tend to look for typ­i­cal things in a mate. Women tend to look for a man that can sup­port them and a fu­ture fam­ily where men tend to look for some­one at­trac­tive with a beau­ti­ful body. Ei­ther way, money can bring you love: Most peo­ple have ex­pe­ri­enced it. (What­ever it may be, it may rightly or wrongly taken to mean as love).

Sure, some peo­ple marry for emo­tional rea­sons but sooner or later, money be­comes a fac­tor and ar­gu­ments about it of­ten lead to di­vorce. Some­one may say that their love is not for sale over and over again. But one day when they fall down fi­nan­cially and des­per­ately need help they may ac­cept your of­fer. Money has been able to buy "nearly and al­most ev­ery­thing on this planet and be­yond, in­clud­ing live hu­man be­ings on earth. So, why can't love be bought? At least, it is some­thing that is said to be love, even though it may not be true. But peo­ple don't live by def­i­ni­tions of truth. They can in­tro­duce lies as truths for ma­te­rial ben­e­fits or per­sonal plea­sures in false make-be­lief in self ag­gran­dize­ment.

Of course it all de­pends upon which level of hap­pi­ness one is speak­ing of when ask­ing if money can buy hap­pi­ness. On the most ba­sic lev­els, money most def­i­nitely can buy hap­pi­ness. It is gen­uine hap­pi­ness to be able to pro­vide med­i­cal help for your chil­dren. It is quite de­cid­edly hap­pi­ness to pay rent or mort­gage to have a roof over your head and your chil­dren's heads. It is in­dis­putably hap­pi­ness to buy whole­some and ad­e­quate food to serve your fam­ily and your­self and your beloved four-footed furry friends. It is most cer­tainly hap­pi­ness to have money for some form of trans­porta­tion, be it pub­lic tran­sit or pri­vate au­to­mo­bile, that al­lows the es­cape from walk­ing 1 or 2 miles car­ry­ing sup­plies for fam­ily meals for a day or two. Money can and does buy hap­pi­ness.

The prob­lem is that when our hap­pi­ness is met at one level, our de­sires and def­i­ni­tions of hap­pi­ness con­tinue in an ac­cre­tion process, grow­ing ever larger and more com­plex, and soon the ca­pac­ity of money to pro­vide is out­stripped by the na­ture of our dreams of hap­pi­ness: money can't buy hap­pi­ness in the ab­stract but it most def­i­nitely can buy hap­pi­ness in the con­crete on the first sev­eral most fun­da­men­tal and nec­es­sary lev­els, in­clud­ing an ed­u­ca­tion and for se­cur­ing a well pay­ing job. And it is hard if not im­pos­si­ble to find the love of one's life with­out money with which to make one's self look re­spectable and pre­sentable. Money most de­cid­edly can and does buy hap­pi­ness, when it buys house, fi­nal­ize a mar­riage, of­fer clothes, food, school fees and cost, trans­port fare or ve­hi­cle own­er­ship, life's daily ex­penses.

Here are some sta­tis­tics that will make you think about whether money can buy hap­pi­ness. Ac­cord­ing to Forbes, all you need to be happy is an in­come of $50,000 (just a cou­ple of years back). Ap­par­ently, sci­en­tists have found that "Re­spon­dents to the poll who made more than $50,000 were more sat­is­fied with their lives con­cern­ing fac­tors rang­ing from friends, to health, to how they spent their time." Can a per­son be happy when he/she is starv­ing, with their rights robbed by poverty, siz­zling in heat, or freez­ing in cold? Maybe one in a mil­lion. To sum up for those who be­lieve money is more im­por­tant than love: Hol­ly­wood ac­tor Burt Reynolds said "I have been poor and mis­er­able. I have been rich and mis­er­able. But I pre­fer to be rich and mis­er­able!"

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