Abysmal attitude towards women
IN the last few years, the rise in tragic episodes of women killing – burning, hanging, stoning, and burying to death, has not only stunned the civilized world but also grieved the sensible souls of the country. From top to bottom, respect for women, seems to have lost its scope.
Instead of resolving the genuine issues which come under the jurisdiction of the respective individuals and organizations, they started haunting women - the already ignored segment of the society. Firstly, the attitude of the Council of Islamic Ideology (CII) could be held responsible for making women more vulnerable in the already unfavorable environment of maledominated society, which gives but very little social space to them.
Secondly, the recent episode of a PML-N Federal Minister who made derogatory remarks while speaking on the floor of the House about a woman Parliamentarian. Thirdly, the JUI-F Senator’s abusive remarks, who was speaking in a live talk show on a private TV channel about a female analyst and human rights activist who was speaking about the rise in cases of honour killing in Pakistan.
The unjust treatment of women folk has made them a laughing stuff both on media and in Parliament. If this is the attitude of elected representatives and Constitutional bodies towards women, anybody can imagine about the treatment of the majority uneducated and illiterate men in Pakistani society? The cases of unjust treatment towards Pakistani women have increased more than ever before. Whether it is related to forced marriages, marriages of minors (underage girls), beating of wives, acid throwing attacks, physical and mental torture of domestic women, unjust treatment in property distribution, depriving them of education or giving them no permission for jobs – the folk is being treated more as sub-human and their bodies as men’s colonized territories. Each coming generation instead of following advice and verbal sayings, is acting upon the examples left by their forefathers. And our society has demonstrated less tolerance and more violence towards women. How can the society succeed when half of its population is held back, captivated, discriminated and ignored in getting access even to basic human rights? During quarrels on petty matters, it is very often witnessed that most of men calling names and abusing women. It is the level of respect given to women in our society.
First an unwelcoming attitude is shown towards the new guest of baby girls who are considered more a stigma and a social taboo. And later, mothers are held responsible for their births. This is the level of education and awareness among the majority of common people.
Women usually become victims of the victims – the elderly women do victimize the younger ones in different ways. They are also victimized in the light of collective decision of the male members. Their fortune and destiny lies in the hands of men. They are forced to do what they are told. They are raped, sold, enslaved, threatened, and divorced. Why only women are being targeted, punished, and victimized for elopement – their only crime is to live their life as per their choice.
Khan Abdul Ghaffar Khan once said, ‘If you want to know how civilized a culture is, look at how they treat its women’. Primarily, all human beings are born with different temperament, likes, dislikes and choices in life. But one of the greatest human qualities is to show respect, tolerance and compassion towards other genders for ensuring peaceful co-existence and prosperous family life. Thus, relationships should be based on integrity and mutual understanding. What makes us human is actually the sense of respect for other fellow human beings, especially towards women. Very often it is forgotten that the human race share more commonalities than differences.