One night, the conversation with my friends veered towards retirement, old age and death. I told them that when I have to retire from work, I wouldn’t want to live with any of my children’s families. One of them can have my house because I’d rather be in a good facility for elders. I know I’d be in good company and I’d keep my body, mind and heart stimulated.
I said I’m not joking. One day, we’d all die so I’d rather prepare for that eventuality by sharing my life with others of my age and magnify the greatness of God in my life.
Life is fleeting. Time passes by quickly and before you know it, your children have become adults, your nearing retirement, you get tired easily now and then what?
It seemed just like yesterday that my three children were innocently running around. Now they’re slowing building their own families. But I’m happy. I can look back to those years and say I’ve no regrets. I’ve been in their happiest as well as awkward moments. I would like to believe I’d given them emotional stability and unwavering values that have made them who they are now. When my time is up, I’d have no regrets having them as children and going through the rough and tumble times of a widow raising them on her own.
No regrets. It’s a good feeling when we know we’ve lived a fulfilling and purposeful life. If not, what would be some regrets we’d have before taking that last trip to eternal life?
I caught this synopsis from Bronnie Ware’s international bestseller “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.”
Morbid? I don’t think so. I found the list as good to reflect on:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
Ware wrote that this is the “most common regret of all.” Most people have made decisions on how to live their life based on expectations from parents or social pressure. My own wish is that we should be able to be true to what we believe can make us happy in life. As long as it is not evil or crosses God’s commandments, go for what your heart’s desire is crying out.”
Bible verse to live by : Romans 12:2 - “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” 2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard. When you can’t even turn your head towards your child asking you a question because you’re still glued on your computer, working or talking on the phone discussing work, tsk, tsk, tsk, you’d not see how your child has developed through their young years.
Even Jesus, despite His busy ministry, made sure He took time to rest. Mark 6:31- “Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.”
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Pent up emotions can lead to sickness. Emotions are gifts of God to us. So, sharing our feelings with others is helpful in managing our emotions. We are not created to live along. God gave Eve to Adam so he’d not be lonely. God gave us other people who can share our burdens and whose burdens we share.
Bible verse to live by: 2 Corinthians 3-4 - “God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.”
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. You’d know that you’ve reached your prime when suddenly you see yourself attending class or office reunions or start tracing where your close friends way back your younger years. You may have forgotten them or if not, just didn't have the time to say “yes” when they were trying to catch up with you. Alas, friendships have slipped by over the years.
Bible verse to live by: Proverbs 3:3-4 - “Never let go of loyalty and faithfulness. Tie them around your neck; write them on your heart. If you do this, both God and people will be pleased with you.” 5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. Happiness is a choice. To make sure that we are happy is not being selfish. For me, if we are at peace and contented with ourselves, we are able to make others happy, too. I always believe that we can not give what we don’t have. If we want the world to be good and happy, start with our own selves.
Bible verse to live by: Ecclesiastes 3 :12-13- “I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God.”
No regrets. It’s a good feeling when we know we’ve lived a fulfilling and purposeful life, putting on high priority the real essentials over the worldly stuff. And these are family, love and faith in God.
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