ask him anything
Advice from cosmo’s very own guy guru
Q I’ve just gotten out of a long-term relationship. my ex is the only person I’ve slept with, and I never got off with him—i’ve only had an orgasm by myself. How do I tell a new guy I’ve never been able to orgasm with a partner without disappointing him?
A Most guys are not going to be rattled, and smart guys see it as a challenge. You have nothing to be sorry about, so don’t overthink it. Just tell him: “I’ve never come with a guy, but I’d love to try with you.” Gets ’em every time.
Q I’ve tried everything, even playing basketball with the guys, but I can’t find a BF. What can I do?
You’re a sports fan, so you know champs have slumps. All you can do is keep shooting. It might be time to try a different tactic. Most of my guy friends met their girlfriends at a party, a bar, or a favorite café. Whether it’s love or basketball, you’re more likely to score if you’re having fun playing the game.
Q my boyfriend still texts and calls his ex’s family. When I bring it up, he says I’m being jealous and they just stayed close. Am I out of line for wanting him to cut them off?
Some people think that you have to hit Delete All on your past after a breakup. I disagree. I think this is a question of degrees: If he texts his ex’s family more than he texts you, then screw him. If they want him to get back together with this ex, be wary. But if they occasionally talk sports or grab a quick drink? Who cares? As long as he’s not staying cozy with this ex-gf herself, then what really matters is how he treats you.
This guy is totally up for the challenge!