71 ask Him anything
Advice from cosmo’s very own guy guru
Q I’m completely positive I don’t want kids. Ever. How—and when—do I tell the guys I meet?
A If you’re dating casually, you don’t have to tell a dude that there’s never going to be room in your womb. But if things get serious and you start talking about the future, bring it up. Right or wrong, most guys will assume you want a baby on board someday. And frankly, most guys want kids someday too. Even if you’re deeply in love, disagreeing about kids is usually a deal breaker. Be clear, and don’t pretend there’s wiggle room when there isn’t. That way, you’ll sidestep more stress down the line.
Q A good guy friend has started sleeping over—but just to cuddle. He doesn’t try to kiss me. Does he like me or not?
A That sounds sweet…and boring. He probably wants you, but he’s shy or worried about messing with your friendship. If you like him, you’re going to have to kiss him first. Otherwise, you might be stuck with a human pillow forever.
Q My hookup wants to film us with a Gopro during sex. Weird or totally okay? A
Not weird at all. Historically, he’s part of a grand tradition of documenting sex. A few millennia ago, a caveman boyfriend might have scratched your nude image on a wall, and 150 years ago, your partner might have carried a nude daguerrotype of you. Lovers in other eras have documented sex with papyrus, Polaroid, Super-8, 35mm, Betamax, VHS, and highdefinition 3-D digital video. That said, there’s an equally long history of lovers who told their partners “No fucking way,” since it’s risky to trust a new hookup with a sex tape. Only agree to do what feels right for you.