We know all evidence probably points to the contrary, but there’s hope. We promise.
Give the good guys a chance!
man likes to think of himself as a bad guy. He’s “misunderstood.” Or he “followed his heart.” Or he “had no choice.”
You (or your gal pals), on the other hand, have a few more choice words for guys. Try “asshole,” for one. Or “jerk.” Or “[ insert censorship bleep here].”
Not every man, though, deserves the venom. Despite what your own dating history may tell you, there are a few good men out there. And by good men, we don’t mean “nice guys”—mousy, indecisive man-children who use the cover of friendship to try to get inside your pants, and then get all uppity when they don’t succeed. And we don’t mean “gentlemen”, either—guys who trip over themselves to open every door for you and tip every hat and shower you with flowers whenever you walk by. We’re talking about the genuinely respectful guys; you know, the ones who...
...are honest about wanting to date you.
He wants to date you? He’ll ask you out, straight to your face, and pay you the ultimate courtesy of not confusing you with his intentions. He knows that confident straight shooters last longer in the ligaw game than the torpe types, and he’s willing to risk his ego just to have a shot at taking you out to dinner. Not into him? He’ll accept it with grace and magnanimity—even when it’s probably tearing him up inside—but, most importantly, he won’t stick around. He respects your “No.”
...talk about themselves less than 50% of the time.
Most guys think of themselves as good listeners, when all they actually do is listen to your story, immediately relate it to their own life, and then proceed to hammer you with the moral of the story based on their vast repository of personal experience. No, this guy actually lets you reach the end of your story and keeps his mouth shut most of the time. He knows when to let you ramble, when to let you vent, when to let you curse, and when he can gently step in with an encouraging word or two. Never more... and never about himself.
...lay their phones facedown on the table when you’re on a date.
All his attention is laserbeamed on you. If he really needs to take a call or reply to a text, he’ll give you a heads-up first. Even just raising his eyebrows and pointing at his mobile will do.
...don’t go into stealth mode.
Whether he needs some time away to recover from a cold or tuck into Fallout4 or go out for a beer with some friends, he doesn’t just Kitty Pryde off the face of the earth and start ignoring all your texts. He informs you. He risks confrontation just to be upfront with you that he, too, needs his alone time.
...won’t prolong the inevitable.
When that sad day comes when he realizes he’s not in love with you anymore, he won’t sleep around, try to manipulate you into breaking up with him, or keep up appearances. No—he’ll do the ultimate gentlemanly thing, and break it off, cleanly, surgically, honestly. You’ll hate him for it. You’ll curse him to high heavens. You’ll wish he were dead. And he can take it, because he’s not the man you deserve... but in the end, perhaps, a good man nonetheless.
There are a few good men out there, trust us