sex q& a
NO-BS responses to questions you can only ask Cosmo
Q I can O only from clitoral stimulation, but I find it hard to have P in the V and touch myself. How can I master the multitask?
A Truth: Only 25 percent of women orgasm from vaginal penetration alone (Those simultaneous climaxes in the movies? Mostly cruel Hollywood trickery!). So focus on positions that help you achieve your kind of O, says sex therapist Gina Ogden, PHD. Doggie leaves you a free hand to give your clit some love with an external vibrator—it eliminates the trickiness of focusing on your hand motions while also concentrating on doing the deed. Or try girl-ontop with a vibrating penis ring, which buzzes right against your sweet spot when he’s inside you. Before you know it, you’ll be on your way to doing some scene-stealing of your own.
Q I get horrendous neck cramps every time I go down on my boyfriend. Is there a fix for this, or does it just happen to everyone?
A Giving good head doesn’t have to be a pain in the (wait for it…!) neck. All you really need is some simple repositioning. If you’re in bed, try placing a pillow under his pelvis to bring him up closer to your face—that way you won’t be craning your neck or tucking your chin in. Another pain-free solution? Take your BJ action away from the bedroom. Have him stand up while you kneel or sit on the edge of the couch so that you can face him, well, head-on.
Q I’m 28, and my boyfriend is 48. He is worried that as he gets older, he will have performance issues. At what age does that happen? should I expect that soon?
A Sixty-five is the average age when men begin to experience erectile dysfunction, says urologist and male sexual medicine specialist Darius Paduch, MD. That said, your man’s health is a bigger factor than his age. “If he exercises and has a good diet, he may be as good or better off than an obese 28-year-old,” said Dr. Paduch. The best news for you both? Sexercise totally counts.
Time to bring out the vibrator!