Fo­cus on what you are rather than what you are not

Cosmopolitan (Philippines) - - You, You, You -

hy is it that, al­though lov­ing some­one just the way they are is the ideal, we’re not as ac­cept­ing when it comes to our own flaws? In her book

growth, and rec­og­nize that we are all works in progress, con­stantly evolv­ing. From this per­spec­tive, you’re bet­ter able to see chal­lenges as valu­able parts of the jour­ney rather than ob­sta­cles to where you want to be. strug­gling with their own in­se­cu­ri­ties. When you stop fo­cus­ing on the imag­i­nary neg­a­tive thoughts of oth­ers, you’re free to con­cen­trate on your own thoughts— and to change them into some­thing more pos­i­tive and em­pow­er­ing. Dwelling on what oth­ers seem to have and what you think you lack de­stroys your self-es­teem. So, in­stead of mak­ing com­par­isons, re­in­force some­thing about your­self that you think is valu­able. For ex­am­ple, if you catch your­self think­ing, “She’s more suc­cess­ful in her ca­reer,” re­mind your­self of a pos­i­tive as­pect of your job, such as “I’m proud that I do some­thing that makes a dif­fer­ence in the world.” Fo­cus on the pos­i­tive.

Be your own big­gest fan.

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