Focus on what you are rather than what you are not
hy is it that, although loving someone just the way they are is the ideal, we’re not as accepting when it comes to our own flaws? In her book
growth, and recognize that we are all works in progress, constantly evolving. From this perspective, you’re better able to see challenges as valuable parts of the journey rather than obstacles to where you want to be. struggling with their own insecurities. When you stop focusing on the imaginary negative thoughts of others, you’re free to concentrate on your own thoughts— and to change them into something more positive and empowering. Dwelling on what others seem to have and what you think you lack destroys your self-esteem. So, instead of making comparisons, reinforce something about yourself that you think is valuable. For example, if you catch yourself thinking, “She’s more successful in her career,” remind yourself of a positive aspect of your job, such as “I’m proud that I do something that makes a difference in the world.” Focus on the positive.
Be your own biggest fan.