Um, no. “There are basically two kinds of routes to sexual arousal: the sheer lust route and the romantic route,” says Anthony Bogaert, PHD, author of Understandingasexuality. If you don’t ever get the hots for a cute stranger or if shirtless James Reid doesn’t make you want to take a cold shower, it could be that you lean toward demisexuality, an offshoot of asexuality. Demisexuals only feel sexual attraction to someone when there’s an emotional bond first, and hey, that sounds pretty darn romantic, right? Think about it this way: Taking your time to really know someone before you get it on can make sex— when you’re ready to have it—even hotter!