Here’s WHY We DON’T get JEAL­OUS

Cosmopolitan (Philippines) - - Love, Lust & Other Stuff -

First of all, why should we be any­way? While that’s a rhetor­i­cal ques­tion, you ac­tu­ally should re-as­sess your rea­sons for feel­ing both­ered by this cir­cum­stance. Just be­cause we don’t re­act when you hang with your guy friends, freely al­low you to go out, and take pride in com­pli­ments thrown your way, it doesn’t mean we don’t care for you. We don’t need to re­strict you or man­han­dle you for you to feel that you are loved, in the same way that you don’t need to push our but­tons just to make us jeal­ous and feed your needy self.

In­stead of won­der­ing and wor­ry­ing why we seem too cool and com­pla­cent, try to see it in a pos­i­tive light. We’re letting you live your life to the fullest and we have no in­ten­tions of breed­ing a brat for a girl­friend. Don’t wish for a guy who would lock you up just be­cause he’s in­se­cure about you in­ter­act­ing with other men, or be­cause he can’t stand see­ing you ex­cel in your cho­sen field of work. You wouldn’t want that. Your worth shouldn’t be mea­sured by how a guy wants you to act.

Here’s what you should know:

We’re not jeal­ous be­cause we trust you. We’re not jeal­ous be­cause we be­lieve you have enough sense to avoid do­ing any­thing that would put our re­la­tion­ship at risk. We’re not jeal­ous be­cause we know you’re a well­man­nered woman who can han­dle her­self well. We’re not jeal­ous be­cause call it ego­tis­ti­cal, but com­pli­ments you get from other peo­ple make us look good, too. We’re proud of you.

If at the end of the day these rea­sons still don’t put you at ease, the best thing to do is open up about it. Let us know you need to feel more loved and wanted. Make a com­pro­mise. We don’t need to be jeal­ous to ex­press our love, and nei­ther do you.

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