Q I’m so over dating for fun—i want my next guy to be someone I can get serious with. How can I say that during a first date without chasing men away? A
I can confirm that the firstdate fear factor is real. It freaked me out when a girl told me about her dream wedding before our food arrived! So ease into it. Decide if you even like the guy (which may take a few dates). Then suggest what you’re looking for, but don’t give a State of the Date address. Casually mention that you’re not into casual dating. You don’t have to make the first date serious just because you want a serious relationship, but you can lay the foundation.
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