Get Dressed Up and Go out together
netflix is awesome, but if you’re constantly home, you’re depriving yourselves of the chance to see each other all spruced up… and the chance for him to notice that others find you attractive. there’s nothing like a man watching a roomful of guys look his woman up and down to make him desire what he already has (and vice versa). time, so any evidence that you too have a kinky plan goes far in making you a fixture in our bank of naughty thoughts. if you text him: “you have no idea what i’m planning on doing to you later…,” his heart will beat twice as fast.
play With Him in Unexpected Moments
find random opportunities to build sexual tension: playfully brush against his package under the table. or hint at a bj while he’s on a work call. ( He’ll have to stop you, but he’ll love that you’re ready to go.)
let Him know nobody Does it Better
a man’s sexual enjoyment is bound up with how desired he feels. tell him what he does to you turns you on like no one else. a little flattery goes a long way.
Make it okay to try new things
a lot of men love to take the lead sexually but don’t feel confident expressing their unspoken desires. Make him feel safe by taking him to a sex shop, picking out something you like, and saying, “i’d love it if you’d use this on me.” that tells him it’s cool to share fantasies.
april 2016 Cosmopolitan