The next time you’re going down on her, try tracing the alphabet (or spell her name!) with your tongue—the variety of movements means she’ll be experiencing all kinds of new feels that will build up into a massive O. But mouth stuff doesn’t have to be the only way to get it on with your girl. “People joke about scissoring, but it has some really good qualities to it because you hit all those nerve endings on the clitoris and vulva,” says sex educator Richelle Frabotta. Or if you want to go the penetration route, Frabotta suggests buying a strap-on that’s well-made with leather and strong grommets, and fits you perfectly. Sometimes just trying something new will make her melt faster than, well, vanilla ice cream.