“But i’m not a slut. i don’t sleep around— that much.”
Today, dating apps like Tinder have made hooking up so much easier that sometimes “sleeping around a lot” becomes very subjective. Cassandra and her girlfriends call the easy access to a bed friend “sex on demand made possible with a simple tap on the phone.”
“Before, I met guys I dated or slept with at parties, at work, or through mutual friends. Now, with these dating apps, you are literally bringing a stranger to your bed. It’s kind of great and liberating, but also kind of scary, when you think about it,” she says. Samonte clarifies, “There is a common misconception that you cannot get HIV if you don’t have sex a lot. Truth is, you can get HIV even if you just have unprotected sex only once.” “It is really important to use condoms. That is the only way to stop the spread of HIV. That and checking your HIV status regularly,” Samonte emphasizes.
Cassandra recently got tested again. This time, her friend, Riki, 25, went with her. Riki is a lesbian who sleeps only with women, but has realized that her female partners have had sex with guys and may have thus put her at risk.
The two set a date to get tested at the Love Yourself Clinic at Shaw Boulevard in Mandaluyong. This time, Cassandra was more confident and secure. Imagining the same what ifs going through Riki’s mind, Cassandra calmly reassured her as they waited for their turn. “I couldn’t help but notice that we were the only two women there. Thankfully, everything about the center, the atmosphere and the counselors, made us feel at ease. There were no awkward moments,” says Cassandra.
Both their test results came out negative and the girls decided to openly celebrate their status.“we took a selfie after our test and posted it on our social media accounts,” Cassandra tells us. “We had a nice dinner together and talked about how we should schedule a regular HIV testing date.” Cosmopolitan may 2016