It highlights a sense of urgency.
If you’re in such dire need of tearing each other’s clothing off
you’re probably not pausing to dress up in fishnets/break out the sex swing/come up with a crazy role-play scenario. What could be sexier than wanting—and being wanted by—another person so fervidly that it’s all you can do to get to the bedroom? Here and there, I find that needing to bone a person ASAP doesn’t even allow for positions beyond missionary. Immediacy leads to sex that won’t leave anyone wishing it had been anything but what it was. Hot, passionate, and perfect.
You can really focus on the feelings.
When you do without contraptions, you and your partner will be focused on each other’s nuances—instead of worrying about whether you’re cycling through all the buzz modes on your vibe. When I’m having the best-ever sex with J., I’m rarely planning my next move. Instead, I’m zeroed in on the rad things we’re actually doing and responding accordingly. I can take stock of how he reacts when I touch harder or more lightly, slower or faster, or in a particular place. Our bodies are our toys! Just pay attention to how your boo breathes, moves, and reacts to get him to an amazing O.