If you’re usually into a different kind of sex, going back to basics can be a nice diversion.
If you’re into being experimental and naked at the same time, choosing to have sex in its most stripped-down format is one of the most transgressive and surprising things you can do for yourself and your partner(s). I like having conventional sex because, after years of freakydeaky behavior, it now feels more subversive than entanglements that necessitate a trip to a sex shop first. (And let’s be real—that shit can get really expensive.) It’s refreshing to take a breather from reaching into the nightstand drawer every time I want to have interesting, intimate, standout sex. It even increases my appreciation for those times when I do want to break out those electrically charged fingertip vibes. Go back and think of three mind- blowing, super steamy sessions from your past, and compare them to three meh ones, suggests Emily Nagoski, PHD, author of Comeasyouare. Consider the who, what, when, where, and why of each, then focus on all the “that was awesome” parts to bring out your inner horndog. Making your environment sex- positive helps your brain feel that way too. Worried about your roommate walking in on you? Lock the door, or pick a time when you know she’s away. Nervous that Mom might call? Set your cell to “do not disturb.” That way, all you have to think about is the good feels between you and your lovah. We all know that wearing a hot pair of cheekies will make you feel sexy AF. And a 2011 survey shows that some women who wore fug undies ( you know, the ones with the broken elastic that you’ve had since… high school?) said it actually busted their mood. Opting for a G- string can prime your brain for some booty.