I’m starting to feel like every guy I date expects crazy, out-of-the-box sex—to the point where I feel like a freak for only being into vanilla stuff. Is there a way I can let dudes know that ahead of time, before we even make it into the bedroom, while s
I’d recommend dropping a few casual “but that’s not me” hints when something kinky comes on TV. As in, “I’m all for sexy movies, but the spanking in Fiftyshades doesn’t do it for me.” Just remember there’s no shame in your game. You’re not a prude. You have preferences and are that much cooler for owning them.