Men and the Myth of the Sim­ple Girl

Once and for all: Why do Pi­noy men love the idea of The Sim­ple girl?

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It’s a cliché as old as show­biz: Host Ex­traor­di­naire sits El­i­gi­ble Ac­tor down on the tell-all couch, and, af­ter all the ques­tions on self-re­flec­tion and what­not, asks him about his dream girl. El­i­gi­ble Ac­tor de­murs and says, “Ang­hanap­kolang­ta­laga ay sim­ple girl.”

Does this leg­endary crea­ture even ex­ist? A friend—whose taste in girls, he felt, were sim­i­lar to his taste in mu­sic: off­beat, quirky, in­die— wanted to find out for him­self. His rea­son­ing went be­yond cu­rios­ity: A non-in­die, non-quirky, non-off­beat girl, he thought, wouldn’t be the headache that he’d ex­pe­ri­enced in­die, quirky, off­beat girls to be. “Kung saba­gay,” he added, “Baka­mas okayn­gang man­li­gaw sa­taon­giba saiyo. Opposites at­tract, ’diba?”

And here we run into the in­her­ent prob­lem that comes with the term “sim­ple girl.” Re­mem­ber, sim­ple is also the “kind” word once used to re­fer to the men­tally-trou­bled, as if the word was do­ing them Cos­mopoli­tan a fa­vor. It’s a prob­lem that be­comes even clearer when you con­sider the more un­kind ver­sion of the sim­ple girl la­bel—the “ba­sic bitch.” You know the type: has straight, wa­ter­fall hair, or­ders only car­bonara and iced tea, wears de­part­ment store long-sleeves to work, has Top-40 mu­si­cal tastes, is quiet, “low main­te­nance,” ut­terly plain, and very, very bor­ing.

In other words, the sim­ple girl is the girl who doesn’t de­serve a seat at the cool ta­ble, be­cause she isn’t fash­ion­able enough, cul­tured enough, poised enough, con­fi­dent enough, or pretty enough. She’s the girl who won’t pass such elit­ist, clas­sist stan­dards, per­ookay­lang,

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