We just want someone who we feel isn’t
namansiya, as if her very conventionality were the consolation prize for her desirability— kita mo,type siyani Eligible Actor, so she should be glad for the attention, right? All simple girls should be.
Enter guy insecurity. Because a lot of us would
someone who’s too demure to answer back.
never dream of asking anyone from the cool-girl table out, we came to idealize the simple girl, turning a classist putdown into a desirable trait. But the simple girl is really a mythical creature—as in, she doesn’t exist, and to chase after her is to be dishonest with ourselves. We don’t actually want a simple girl. Maybe we just want someone who we feel isn’t maarte. Maybe we want someone who doesn’t care about fancy clothes or posh restaurants. Maybe we just want someone who’s too demure to answer back. Or maybe we want someone we can feel superior to. Whatever the reason is, we should stop smoothing over a person’s quirks and putting her in the simplistic box called the simple girl. After all— and we’re sorry to break it to you, Eligible Actor and Feeling-indie Friend— there are no simple girls, just women with different complexities.
Do simple girls really exist?